How To Cope With Break Up – Is It Too Late To Get Back Together?

It is almost never too late to try and get your ex back, no matter how far down the line you are in your relationship break up.

You know yourself how your opinion of someone can change even when there has been a lot of bad history between you.

It is human nature to forgive and forget and to want to believe that people have changed.

Do you believe the old saying 'A leopard never changes its spots?'

I think the only time this saying should be taken literally is where it applies to someone who is abusive.  In this situation, don't even think about it – just get out and stay out of the relationship.

However, in almost every other case, I believe that humans are capable of massive change all through their lives.

Think about your own relationships with your parents, your brothers and sisters, your friends and your colleagues.  They constantly change and evolve.  Take that relationship where you fell out with your best friend and didn't talk for 6 months.  And then you bumped into them again and couldn't remember why you had been so angry with them.  But you do remember why you liked to be around them so much.

You yourself have probably done things which have upset others, but which you have been forgiven for.

If your ex was the one who caused the break up, you need to ask yourself how you feel about them now?  What comes into your mind when you think about them?  Is it mostly happy memories and nice thoughts or are you still harbouring anger and resentment against them.  If you are, then you need to wait a while and work through your feelings before you try and get your ex back.

If it was you that caused the break up and you want to be forgiven and taken back by your ex, then you need to decide how you will go about that.  It doesn't matter how long it has been since you broke up, in fact this could be to your advantage as it will  have given your ex time to get over the upset and hurt your caused them and allow them to remember the good times.

Either way you need to have a strategy in mind, one that is designed to make your ex want to get closer to you again.  This isn't going to happen by chance just because you see each other in passing and enjoy a catch up.  It will involve you being pretty determined and taking deliberate steps to make sure that you are the last thing your ex thinks about when they go to bed at night, and the first thing that pops into their head when they wake up in the morning.