How to Take Personal Responsibility
Todayís topic is about taking personal responsibility for the results that youíre experiencing in your business: one of the things I believe makes or breaks someoneís chances for success in business is that of personal responsibility.
Hereís what I know for sure.
The more you take responsibility for every single aspect of your life, the more
every part of your life will improve at the same time. In fact, I do not
believe that you can ever achieve big success without personal responsibility.
Itís a topic that very few marketing teachers ever really talk about in depth,
but itís one that is crucial for success.
Iím going to get vulnerable with you for a moment. In the past, each time I bumped up against a new level in my
business a lot of my old stuff would come up. In the past, Iíve caught myself
comparing my level of success to others who were experiencing more success and
feeling resentful, Ďless thaní and sometimes even blaming others. These are
just yucky feelings to make excuses for not being where I would like to be, in
terms of success, at that moment.
It did not feel good to compare myself and to blame my
circumstances and others, and perhaps you know exactly what Iím talking about. What Iíve noticed is Iím not the only one whoís ever experienced
this. I have witnessed other people in my life who really want to move up to
the next level, but instead they begin to feel frustrated. They start to point
fingers, blaming their situation, the economy, their marriage, the price of
gas, ďthe systemĒ, the government, a program they took or whatever else they
can find to shuck responsibility for where they are currently.
What I also noticed is that in the end we are all
ultimately responsible for everything in our livesóevery
increase in income and success. Just as importantly weíre also responsible for
every setback. I know this is really, really hard to hear, especially if youíre
not where you want to be and it seems like the whole world is against you, but
we have no one to point fingers at, but ourselves and hereís why.
Everything we have in our life exists because of the
actions, behaviors, habits, words, and thoughts that we have. Every decision we make creates our circumstances and because of
that we are ultimately responsible for every success, failure, happiness,
unhappiness, financial situation, everything. Every day, every minute and in
every moment of our business and our personal life there is a fork in the road
and we have a choice. We can continue to do things as weíve always done them or
we can take a different path.
We create our current reality with every action we take
and also with every action we do not take or everything we do not implement. Itís 50/50. For years I have kept an article by Brian Tracy close
to my heart. If youíre not familiar with him yet heís one of the worldís
authorities on personal and business success. This article has become one of my
favorites and I refer to it often. I even ask my clients to read it. You can search
for article - ĎBrian Tracy personal responsibilityí. Youíre going to love it.
In the article, Brian talks about the fact that personal
responsibility goes hand in hand with success, achievement, motivation,
happiness and self-actualization. This is
everything. Itís the ultimate minimum requirement for the accomplishment of
everything you could ever really want in life. Accepting that you are
completely responsible for yourself and your results and realizing that no one
else is coming to the rescue is the beginning of peak performance.
The opposite of accepting personal responsibility is
making excuses and blaming people and things for whatís going on in your life. Since everything we do is a matter of habit, if people get into the
habit of making excuses they also get into the habit of avoiding
Listen, Iíve been there. The reason I can talk about this
is because I have been that resentful, comparing person.
Your Client Attraction Assignment
You have heard the saying, ďSpeak the truth and the
truth will set you free.Ē Well, in this case I want
you to be very honest with yourself in answering some questions that I have for
Have you ever blamed someone or
something for the fact that you havenít yet achieved what you wanted in your
life or in your business?
Do you sometimes use excuses
like ďI donít have time or I donít have money,Ē so that you donít have to take
action in terms of getting clients? Perhaps you even use excuses just in case
it doesnít work out and then you donít have to be embarrassed?
Have you harbored any resentment
towards someone or something because you feel like you were gypped in some way?
Are you pointing fingers saying, ďThis is the reason that Iím not making more
money in my business?Ē
Have you compared yourself to
someone else more financially successful than you currently are? Have you
judged that person based on their success.
I have. Thereís nothing
wrong with admitting that. Personally speaking I know that I have been able to
answer every single question that I asked you with a ďyesĒ at least at some
point in my self-employed career. Whether or not I knew it consciously at the
time, it all resulted from avoiding responsibility for what I was creating in
my own life. It didnít feel good and certainly none of it helped me move
forward towards success.
The key is to be honest with yourself about the level of
responsibility you are taking in creating your current situation. No one else can create your life except for you because only you
control your thoughts, your words, your actions, your behaviors and habits.
Yes, you may have started out with some things going against you, but in every
moment of every day you have the opportunity to change this because there is a
fork in the road of your success.
This is your opportunity to step up in your business. Stop resenting or comparing yourself and maybe even stop blaming
others for what you have or what you donít have in your business. Itís about
taking a No-Excuses Approach to doing what you have to do to get clients, to
start being consistent in your marketing, to work through the programs that
youíve invested in or to clear your schedule to attend events no matter what
else has come up.
Begin to take full responsibility and start making different choices. When you do, your life and your business will never be the same. Thatís what Iíve experienced. Thatís what my clients have experienced. I promise you, it works. Sometimes you just need to do the things that youíre unwilling to do to get results.
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ABOUT THE AUTHOR
Fabienne Fredrickson, The Client Attraction Mentor, is founder of the Client Attraction System, the proven step-by-step program that shows you exactly how to attract more clients, in record time...guaranteed. To get your F.R.E.E. Audio CD by mail and receive her weekly marketing & success mindset articles on attracting more high-paying clients and dramatically increasing your income, visit http://attractclients.com