Addiction Freedom Secrets - 4 Stages of Self-Esteem
The mainstream approach to addiction recovery consists of two primary components, neither of which yields better than a 5-7% success ratio, nor do they address self-esteem related issues. If you’re like most, you may not realize that 98% of all addiction treatment options utilize Cognitive Behavioral Therapy and/or the Twelve-Step Program as their primary modalities. Ironically, both of these approaches fail to properly address low levels of self-esteem. Instead, they offer counterproductive principles of stoicism and powerlessness which further exacerbates the situation. At this point, you may be asking what a low level of self-esteem has to do with addiction. Well, the answer is everything! You see, the root cause of addiction is the emotional trauma caused by family dysfunction. These patterns of control, abuse, and part-time parenting rob a person of their personal power and undermine self-esteem. And, it’s no secret that individuals suffering from addiction not only have a low level of self-esteem, but they also live in a world of self-blame and shame. I like to call this condition “Wounditis!” Commonly, they blame themselves for their family’s dysfunctional behavior. As an example, “My Mother verbally abused me by constantly telling me I was worthless, stupid, and ugly, but she’s right, I am!” Or, “My Father bludgeoned me with a hockey stick on a regular basis and broke my bones, but I was a bad kid and deserved it!” This type of self-blame destroys ones self-esteem and drives addictive behavior. Obviously, the two individuals mentioned above don’t love themselves, and they view themselves as being flawed and worthless, which by the way is absolutely untrue and ridiculous! However, the more someone tells you that you are worthless, the more you begin to believe them! Let’s face it! If you really loved yourself and were brimming with self-esteem, would you be drinking destructively or abusing drugs? Therefore, if you want to overcome your addiction, you’re going to have to seek the truth through liberation and restore your self-esteem through empowerment.
For your benefit, I have outlined the four stages of self-esteem below. Notice that liberation is the first. This is not by chance since the remaining stages are difficult, if not impossible, to reach if you do not obtain the first.
To set somebody free from traditional socially imposed constraints.
If you are in fact suffering from addictive behavior, begin by examining the path that brought you to your present state. What types of family dysfunctions played a role in undermining your self-esteem? Were your parents verbally, physically, or sexually abusive? Were they controlling and manipulative? Did the fail to provide the love, guidance, and bonding by showing up part-time for a full-time job? Or, did they themselves abuse alcohol or drugs? These are the questions that must be answered. Once you have uncovered these negative patterns, you must liberate yourself from them by putting a stop to the dysfunctional behavior. This must be done by either setting some boundaries, or in extreme cases severing the relationship.
A complete and individual personality, especially one that somebody recognizes as his or her own and with which there is a sense of ease.
Once you have liberated yourself from patterns of dysfunction, it is time to re-evaluate who you are, what you believe in, and the principles you stand for. It is hard to be at ease with yourself, if you fail to live your life in truth or stand for a set of principles. Define what those are and stand like a rock, refusing to let anyone persuade you otherwise.
To hold ones self in hi merit or regard, concerning their personality, principles, and actions.
A complete change - usually into something with an improved state, appearance, or usefulness.
Change is incredibly hard and very frightening for most people, isn’t it! The fact of the matter is, most people avoid and even resist change. But, you can’t avoid it, and you certainly can’t stop it. At the end of the day, life is a journey of change. And the sooner you realize that the better off you’ll be. Let’s use the following parable to describe the process of change; your standing on the dysfunctional side of the road and on the other side is change. You can stay on the dysfunctional side of the road and say “even though this side is pretty screwed up, it’s a little more comfortable than the other side because I don’t know what’s over there!” Or you can venture into the middle of the road, confused about whether to go back or to cross.” And, I don’t think I need to tell what happens when you stand in the middle of the road to long, do I! Or, you can close your eyes and walk across in faith, knowing that what ever is on the other side has to be better than where you were! But, this is scary for people isn’t it? In reality, it just comes down to fear! You really do have “nothing to fear but fear itself!”
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As a life coach, Roppo has helped addicted clients learn the secrets of how to stop drinking, and he has established his unique five-step process as a potential benchmark for recovery. His success has overwhelmingly convinced him that the mainstream approach to alcoholism is fundamentally amiss because traditional 12-Step Programs attempt to defeat the symptoms rather than address the core issue.