How would you like to decrease your stress, increase your success ratio, and have more fun in your life? This is all possible when you get in with the right crowd and begin to spend more time with folks who are doing what you want to do and less time with people who are trying to force you down a different path, don’t understand what you’re doing or don’t believe in you.
Whenever I talk to other entrepreneurs and investors,
especially new ones, I meet people with questions and concerns about people not believing in them or their dreams. Their mother in law thinks they should get a job at the dentist’s office instead of pursuing that internet business you’ve been making efforts on for 6 months while you worked part time at the factory. Their cousin got fired from a sales commission only job and now tells you that the network marketing company you’re looking at will never work for you. A co-worker buys an overvalued condo from a pushy salesperson broker, doesn’t know what to do to get it rented, and gets foreclosed on 12 months later—confiding in you that your dreams of real estate investing are stupid and that you should take his advice and just “play it safe.”
This happens all the time, and sometimes—heck, often—the person who won’t cheer for your success or support you in pursuing it is not a bad person. In fact, they many times think they’re doing you a favor by “giving it to you straight”. Want the opinion of a guy who’s been there and done that in business, real estate and making money on the internet? “PHOOEY.” There will always be people who tell you that YOU can’t do something when what they’re really saying is that they don’t believe that THEY can.
I’ve talked to entrepreneurs all over this great country and shared stories of this happening to them too. Face it, it’s normal! Inventing a future that others do not understand or believe in is hard. Many people around you will not be supportive of your crazy dreamer ideas, many will laugh, and some will even react negatively. At some level you need to change your circle and get in with the right crowd, around people doing what you want to do, who believe in themselves and you too.
If you want to decrease your stress, increase your success ratio, and have fun with a better quality of people then I highly recommend that you spend more time with folks who are doing what you want to do and less time with people who are trying to force you down a different path, don’t understand what you’re doing or don’t believe in you.
If that’s happening for you, with people around you wondering what the heck you are doing with this internet business, or that real estate stuff, or with that zany home based business…if you’ve heard one too many times “that won’t work”…”I have a cousin who tried that and she lost all her money”…”that’s just a scam and no one gets rich doing it”…”why don’t you just get a job?”…and ”you couldn’t even graduate high school, how are you going to own a business?””…then boy, have I got news for you.
Listen up and trust me in this fact. You are suffering like almost all entrepreneurs do at multiple points in their life. But you don’t have to anymore. Because there is an off switch to all of that crap. Some of us need to learn who to say “no” to in our lives, the people who have nothing good to say about what you’ve put your heart and soul into, expect you to fail, or continually harp negatively. Say “goodbye” and flip that switch OFF, lowering the volume of outside distractions, and saying “NO” to people taking up space in your mind but not leaving behind anything positive.
We can all do more when we find more people who encourage us to say “yes” to our dreams. Each of us as entrepreneurs often has someone in our life that empowers us to do something more, to take risks, to realize our potential, and to go after the better life. It may be a wife or girlfriend, a mother or brother/sister, a teacher or a preacher. Sometimes drawing encouragement from them isn’t enough; sometimes it’s not the message nor the messenger that’s key in catalyzing great achievement.
Sometimes it’s like I said, lowering the volume on distractions and keying in to that one or two voices in your life saying “go for it, I believe in you”. If you too have a person like that in your life, listen to them, find more like them, and tune out the negative crap. I think you’ll be pleasantly surprised at how far you progress in the material world of success—and in that mental world within the six inches of your skull—by this time next year.
