You agreed to a situation or event, but it’s not going as you expected. In fact, it seems out of your control at times. Do you fight or surrender?
A misconception exists about managing our lives, especially if we use spiritual tools. The misconception is that everything should go “perfectly” all the time. We really know how to burden ourselves with such thoughts.
A spiritual approach to life (or any approach) is not about controlling everything; it’s about managing your energy no matter what. It’s about choosing how you experience the moments. If you understand you may stumble, your perspective and experience can be a better one.
I lived this when I recently house-sat for a friend, something I’ve done several times before. Though each time is different, there’s a mix of what needs to get done and a mini-vacation. It’s an understatement to say there are amenities: use of the Mercedes Jeep, Jacuzzi, fireplace, big screen TV and satellite, the huge house on two gorgeous secluded acres, the private beach, and more. Previous times involved around three hours of physical energy each day to take care of things that have to get done, sometimes a bit more, though I stay available for whatever 24/7, with the rest of the time my own.
This time, each day involved six to eight hours of physical energy, plus some of my own work . . . Definitely not a mini-vacation for someone who uses her mind, not her muscles.
There was more, but you can see how even though unexpected stuff happened, good things consistently occurred, as well. I have to admit I had some inner struggle going on, all of it self-induced, of course. It’s so easy to slip into patterns of negative inner chatter when things “seem” to go awry.
Way of the Peaceful Warrior, the movie based on Dan Millman’s book, played the last day I was there. In one scene, Joy speaks to Dan months after his accident and says, “I know this is a scary time for you, but are you paying attention?” When I perceived how this line of dialogue felt in my body, I entered a state of inner peace.
This line was what my week had been about, especially since I swapped “scary” with “stressful.” There were times I’d paid attention to how my ego got rattled and I’d thought, “Watch your circuitry.” One day I walked around thinking the word “Peace” every time my self-chatter didn’t benefit me. My days at home (where I work) are, primarily, easily managed and orderly. During those ten days, I observed how flexible and inflexible I can be when not in my “controlled” environment. I noted the attention I pay and don’t pay to what and how, and how often.
On the seventh day, I told myself it was time to surrender; realized it was possible to make a list of things I chose to do each day and get them done, no matter what else happened; and, I surrendered the agenda of restful days and nights. This didn’t mean I gave up, but allowed the experience, observed myself amid all of it, and chose to flow and respond more often, rather than react (or gritch, which I did to some extent until watching the Peaceful Warrior movie). I allowed it had gone just as it should so I could learn something about myself.
Surrender, then, can mean to allow. It can mean to pay attention in a way that serves you. It can allow you to merge with events so you become the experience you wish to have.
Is there anything happening in your life at this moment you’re resisting? Are you willing to choose to learn about yourself through it? If it’s something you can change, do so. When you find yourself in situations you don’t have complete control over, surrender by paying attention. Shift it, if needed, and if you can; because when you pay attention, you feel your inner power grow in strength and peace. Then you can perceive and experience what’s going on around you differently.
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