Learn to accept and appreciate your life
You may have started this book frustrated with life and wanting to win. If only you could have all that you wanted, then you would be at ease, happy and fulfilled. The truths you have read and applied so far are part of becoming that person. However, I’m sorry to be the bearer of bad news (I don’t make it, I’m merely delivering it to help you become aware), but unless you learn to smell and enjoy the roses today, with all your problems and headaches, then you will never be at ease, happy and fulfilled.
This is a truth that you must learn to work on yourself now.
Nostalgia doesn’t serve you. Many are either living everyday in the glory of their past accomplishments or using the hope for a better future as a way of escapism. People use it to get away into a perceived state of elation. And what are they escaping? They are escaping the much-dreaded present.
They go through day-to-day life as zombies, senseless and numb to the world they live in, and the people they interact with. Absent-minded and not being productive are only some of the signs that constitute this issue — tip of the iceberg so to speak.
If you can’t enjoy now, the chances are you never enjoyed those (past) moments for what they were either. Now you are nostalgic about it, but are repeating the same mistake as you did in the past. Live in the moment like there’s no tomorrow. Realize beauty in every moment, and appreciate things for what they are, good and bad.
Many are driving on the road with their head looking back instead of looking ahead. Others daydream about their destination and in the process crash into a tree because they failed to pay attention where it’s required — at the very moment.
And how do winners feel about the present? Winners are those people who in the midst of all their challenges (i.e. throughout the journey) realize they must face the present for what it is, and make the most of it. They don’t dwell on the past nor escape into the future because they know that it’s of no benefit to where they are and where they want to go.
Winners have their full attention and utmost energy in every given moment that they live in. It all happens in the present. Nothing in the past can be changed. A better future demands your complete attention to be on your present day.
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ABOUT THE AUTHOR
Kevin Abdulrahman is a renowned public speaking coach & Motivational Speaker Singapore who has worked with entrepreneurs, thought leaders, public figures, CEOs, Presidents and Royalty. His thoughts in this column are his own and are not necessarily reflected by Esquire Middle East. His book “60 Minutes To Better Public Speaking” is available on Amazon in 30+ languages and he is available for Presentation Skills Traininig in Dubai.