Never again say: "I had no choice. I had to do it."
Never again make a choice or accept a situation feeling like you have no choice but to "suck it up and make the best of it." If you are being asked to make a decision and have only two options, neither of which you find desirable it means only one thing: you don't have enough information yet to make decision. There are always more than 2 options in any situation, and I'll show you how to find them.
If You Think You Have No Choice You Are Mistaken!
In all the years I have been helping people grow spiritually and expand their consciousness, it still causes me a twinge of distress to hear someone say "I had no choice. I had to do to it."
I remember what it was like for me (many years ago) when I used to feel forced to choose between two undesirable options. Oh how I would suffer feeling trapped, oppressed or stuck, while I tried to decide which was the lesser of "two evils."
If you have ever felt trapped by a life situation, with no hope of being free, I am here to tell you, there are always more than two choices in any situation. What you need is more information to create more options. Here is all you have to do to create more desirable choices:
1. Refuse to accept an undesirable choice.
2. Believe you can find an acceptable option.
3. Ask yourself "What would be my ideal solution in this situation?"
4. Brainstorm around the situation.
5. Sleep on it.
Here is how it works . . .
1. By refusing to accept an undesirable choice you are opening your mind to receive new ideas. You will begin to see things with a new perspective.
2. By believing that you can find an acceptable option you are stimulating your thinking brain whose main function is to solve problems.
3. By asking yourself "What would be my ideal solution?" your focus is on creating something you want instead of what you don't want. Perhaps you have heard this phrase, "you always get what you think about, whether you want it or not." Use the power of your mind by focusing on what you want!
4. Brainstorming sets the stage for both sides of your brain to operate. Don't be a "half-wit" when looking for options! Brainstorm by writing down every thought that comes to mind, no matter how ridiculous or impossible it seems. Brainstorming is a case where "two heads are better than one" so you might want to have family or friends brainstorm with you.
5. Sleep on it. Go to sleep asking for ideas and you will likely wake up with new information.
No matter how impossible it may seem in the beginning to find an acceptable 3rd option, I have never had a client or myself fail to find an acceptable alternative to what started out as "I have no choice."
New options can appear all at once in a light-bulb moment, but it is more likely that the new options will appear in fragments, like puzzle pieces, until finally the picture becomes clear.
Take the time you need to let the process work. Don't be bullied into making decisions on the spot. Ask yourself, "what will happen if I delay this decision for a day (or a week, or whatever)." Usually the answer is "nothing will happen; this can wait while the puzzle comes together and I have an acceptable 3rd option."
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Jennifer T. Grainger, B.Msc.,Spiritual Growth Coach & Mentor, Founder of http://www.SpiritualGrowthCommunity.com , an online resource center for people exploring their spirituality. Sign up now for a fr^ee membership and receive Jennifer's guided meditation:"Sitting in the Stillness". In this meditation you will connect with your Divine Self for guidance, inspiration and expanded consciousness. Sign Up Now! http://www.SpiritualGrowthCommunity.com