Animals puff-up when they are vulnerable a threat or are hostile. So do people. If you use excess body weight as armor against the hostilities, or judgments of others you will not be able to lose weight no matter how hard you try. If you are hostile to your self and have low self-esteem you will not be able to reach your weight loss goals no matter how hard you try. Love yourself and you will shed unwanted pounds effortlessly.
Copyright (c) 2009 Valery Satterwhite
I was having fun watching my two cats play one morning when I had one of those AHA moments. I had one of those 'out of the blue' moments of clarity that enlightened, empowered and inspired me. The pussycats were playing a leap-frog kind of game when the play turned into aggression. Both cats 'puffed up' almost simultaneously. Raised hair on the back and a puffed-out tail are animalistic signs of defensiveness or hostility. In a flash, I thought of the many people I work with who are struggling with weight gain. No matter how many diets or exercise regimens they begin, quit, and begin again they can't seem to shed unwanted pounds. Have they 'puffed up' in fear or hostility? Do my overweight clients have a subconscious fear of losing weight, of the vulnerability of getting rid of their armor of fat?
When you are in a state of fear you cling to your current comfort zone. This fear prevents action. It holds you back. You want to lose weight so badly that it consumes much of your waking thoughts, yet you self-sabotage your weight loss progress for fear of the person you will find under the layers of fat. You are terrified of who you might be at your deepest core! The payoff for staying fat is that it allows the person to stay hidden underneath the extra pounds. You don't do anything, such as keeping on unwanted weight, unless you get something out of it. Wearing a fat suit has become part of your identity, and taking off that mask would reveal what you are truly like underneath. What if you don't like what you see? Obese people fear that their true selves would show if there were no layers of fat to hide behind. This fear of losing weight is grounded in their low self-esteem.
Fear of weight loss is not uncommon, especially for those who've been overweight since childhood. When self-esteem and health goals collide, the body image goals often triumph. If you have low self-esteem, if you don't like, or you reject, who you are you will not be able to make positive changes. The ability to move beyond fear, vulnerability and low self-esteem does not come from a place of disgust or self-rejection. Any diet or exercise regime that you engage in that is inspired by self-disgust will be negative and punitive. Self-loathing will not deliver the outcome, the weight loss, you hope to achieve. Your body will fight back at every turn with the egoic behavior of self-protection and survival. You will stay heavy or 'puff up' even more because you're beating yourself up more and more. The more you beat up on yourself the harder it is to reach for a healthy self-image and let go of your fear. And the vicious cycle becomes a tired repetitive pattern of weight gain, weight loss, more weight gain.
You are not your body. You are your intuition, personal passions, truth and the voice of your inspiration. Get in touch with that part of you. Discover who you are hiding underneath your body weight protection. Learn how to love yourself, unconditionally, and you will effortlessly shed the shields that hide you. You are here to live fully and noticeably! Come out of hiding and share your magnificent self with the rest of the world. Everyone has a potential for greatness within. Shine the light on yours, let us see who you are. You are a gift just waiting to be unwrapped.
Self-Doubt Critic Folly
Inner Critic folly is those unquestioned and erroneous limiting beliefs you have about yourself that place limitations on your abilities. They may be conscious or unconscious. In other words, you often hold these assumptions you've made about yourself (and what is possible for you) far below the level of your everyday awareness. You are often unconscious to the fact that these beliefs are what guide your decisions and motivations.
Relationships: A Mirrored Reflection of You
You have a lot of personal and professional relationships in life. Some relationships are loving, satisfying, uplifting, supportive and enrich your life experience. Other relationships are tense, adversarial, problematic, strained, and exhausting. You don't like, or avoid, spending time with the people who drain your life energy. The funny thing is that all of your relationships, good and bad, are a reflection of you!
The Intuitive Mind: Albert Einstein Quote
The intuitive mind is the Wizard Within. It is the voice of your intuition and inspiration. The rational mind is that of the Inner Critic - the voice of your self-doubt and fear. The Wizard Within makes choices and takes action based on gut instinct and creative inspiration. The Inner Critic makes choices and takes action based on fear of failure, fear of success, fear of rejection, fear of humiliation, and fear of change.
