This exercise is designed to get the ball rolling; it is not an attempt to completely resolve the issue immediately. Somebody has to go first if things are going to change for the better.
You Go First
The poet Alta once wrote, "Let's stop hurting each other. You go first." Somebody has to go first if things are going to change for the better.
Time for Exercise: 15 minutes to one hour
Properties Required: none
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This exercise is designed to get the ball rolling; it is not an attempt to completely resolve the issue immediately. We are assuming there is goodwill between you, that you really do love one another and want the relationship to work. Just getting things moving in a new direction with a new dynamic is often all that is needed to clear the way for a completely satisfactory solution to emerge naturally. The next time you use the process, the other person goes first, or you can draw straws to see who goes first each time.
Excerpted from our new book Sensual Love Secrets for Couples: The Four Freedoms of Body, Mind, Heart and Soul, by Al Link and Pala Copeland, Llewellyn, 2007
4 Freedoms Integration Exercise - Under the Sky
Know that you are part of this wondrous vastness. The universe or cosmos contains everything that exists. The universe is believed to "vibrate" out of "strings." According to Dan Falk, "Each string is as small compared to an atom as an atom is compared to the solar system."4 Freedoms Integration Exercise - What's Good?
Generally your consciousness works to create more of what you pay attention to. Be careful what you pay attention to because you are going to get more of it.4 Freedoms Integration Exercise - Seeing in the Dark
This exercise forces you to rely on senses other than sight. You might be amazed at how much you rely on sight for so many things. You might also be amazed at how many things you can do for yourself without being able to see.