In my point of view, the answer to this question is a resounding YES! When it comes to happiness, not only can you really change yourself, but you can also considerably improve the quality of your life!
When it comes to happiness, not only can you really change yourself, but you can also considerably improve the quality of your life!
You can deeply, intensively, and "elegantly" change your disturbances and your disturbability. You can substantially raise your level of happiness-absolutely no doubt about it!
And to top this all up: You can make yourself happy and remarkably less disturbable - that is, if you take your personal power and use it!
I did it, many other individuals did it... and so can you!
Does it mean that you will be able to completely change your personality?
Well, no. Not exactly.
First of all, let's not forget that we all have natural, inborn tendencies to make ourselves anxious, to be depressed, and to be self-hating. However, even if we have these inborn tendencies, the good news is we really do not have to go along with or give into them.
In other words: "inborn" doesn't mean "fixed."
For example:
Sounds a little hard to believe, right? But remember this: Even if our biology and our upbringing strongly encourage our doing so, we choose to indulge in our emotional problems... alas, we do! On the other hand, let's keep in mind that we also have considerable ability to stop our neurotic tendencies in their tracks and to reduce them.
And how can we change our strong tendency to act self-defeatingly?
Well, we can train ourselves to behave for our own interest-and for the interest of the social group in which we choose to live-by learning how to change our thoughts, feelings, and actions and thereby reduce our emotional distress.
Nowadays, there are so many tools we can use to help us create more happiness in our lives. Some of them are free, some of them we'll have to invest a certain amount of money to access them.
Now, do we absolutely have to use any of these tools in order to create a happier, more trouble-free life for ourselves?
No, we absolutely don't have to.
But here's the real question: How bad do we want change?
How bad do you want change?
Happiness: What Needs to Change So That We Feel Better, Get Better, and Stay Better?
We do not feel good because all is well in our world. All is well in our world because we feel good. The way to change things in our lives is to first change ourselves. That’s what the mystics and the most prominent teachers keep repeating over and over again since the beginning of time.
Unconditional Acceptance: A Roadmap for Happiness
No matter how difficult we find it to implement the practice of unconditional acceptance in our lives, the word "difficult" doesn't mean "impossible." Each and everyone of us can get to put unconditional acceptance in practice on a daily basis and reap the benefits of a much happier and peaceful life.
What Is the Number One Cause to Unhappiness and Misery?
Many of us blame loneliness, or oppression, or war, or hatred, or violence, and so on. We are mistaken. There is only one cause to unhappiness and misery: The irrational thoughts and false beliefs that inhabit our minds.
