Mid Life Crisis and Self Worth
A middle life crisis can rock the fabric of one's life. Often times the person going through the mid life crisis causes a life crisis for those closest. At the basis of mid life crisis is a self esteem crisis--a question of who one is. The good news is that life can go on and be better than before the mid life crisis.
Often we think of a mid life crisis striking in the middle of one's life. And maybe it's called middle life crisis because that's when most of them strike. Yet today, that age could range easily between 30 and 60 years of age. Carl Jung, psychologist, described the middle age crisis as part and parcel with maturing.
A typical mid life crisis is akin to waking up one day and realizing that you are in the wrong career or married to the wrong person (not that you really are, but you conclude that). Or waking up and realizing that you're getting older and that you're married to an older person too. It's missing the younger time of life or realizing that you never really lived the younger time in your life. Maybe you had children and were tied down as a parent and while some of your friends were traveling, going out dancing, and so on, you were home changing diapers.
The result of a middle life crisis is questioning who you are. It's waking up and realizing that you're not the person who you thought you'd be at this time in your life. There's:
· Disenchantment with everything—even the things that provided happiness for many years.
For those who can't find a new outlet, the mid-life crisis can lead to severe depression.
The end result is that the middle age crisis is an identity crisis. It's a question of who the person really is. And there are two basic results:
Unfortunately, the sufferer of a mid life crisis who goes the second route is not amendable to coaching, therapy, or change until he/she hits bottom at which point they may seek AA, gamblers anonymous or some such program.
If he/she were married, this usually ends in divorce and their spouse ends up in their own crisis as the person going through a mid-life crisis has stripped away their identity as wife or husband.
While you can give book to someone going through a middle age crisis, the crisis will be denied and the book thrown away. If you are left by someone going through a mid-life crisis use the book I wrote, Quick Tips on How to Over Come A Mid Life Crisis Now, The Middle Life Crisis Book, to redefine yourself and get your life back.
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ABOUT THE AUTHOR
Richard Kuhns B.S.Ch.E., NGH certified is creator of over 50 self help mp3 downloads for personal change and growth at http://www.DStressDoc.com and author of the popular selling book titled Quick Tips on How to Over Come A Mid Life Crisis Now, The Middle Life Crisis Book at http://dstressdoc.com/Life_Crisis.html & programs for building self worth at http://www.SelfEsteemCrue.com