Relationship Success Strategies: Chooser Versus Choosee: The Power of Choice
Are you letting people influence your life in a way that’s negative? Do you isolate yourself out of fear of getting hurt? Are you clear about acceptable and unacceptable behavior in others? Are you happy with your boundaries?
Review the following list of unhealthy boundaries. Check off any which sound familiar or strike a chord. If you relate to some of them, you know you have some work to do on setting healthier boundaries.
• You have no boundaries.
You can strengthen your boundaries and it all starts with choosing to be the chooser.
Chooser versus Choosee: The Power of Choice
On the other hand the choosee gives their power away and allows others to make their choices for them.
The choosee is different from being chosen. In being chosen by another you still have clarity about what is and is not acceptable. The choosee settles and is often in a very dependent relationship.
Using three empowering dynamics of choice will give you the power to create and live the life of your choice.
The first dynamic is boundaries. When you know what’s acceptable and what’s not, you have clear boundaries. When you have clear boundaries, choice-making is easy because you know what does and doesn’t work for you.
The next dynamic is values. Knowing what’s important to you is synonymous with knowing your values. When you live and choose in accordance with your values, you live in integrity and wholeness.
The third and final dynamic is balance. When you live with a commitment to a balanced lifestyle, you have an awareness which helps you make healthy choices. Many health issues (both physical and emotional) are caused by a lack of balance. By choosing to have life balance awareness, you live a powerful and healthy life.
Boundaries, values, and balance are the essential cornerstones of your empowering, choice-making life. Choose to be the Chooser! Remember: Setting boundaries is the first step; keeping and maintaining them is the real challenge.
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ABOUT THE AUTHOR
Ken Donaldson has been offering counseling, coaching, and educational programs since 1987. His programs are focused on empowering people to have more successful lives, businesses and relationships. Ken is the author of Marry YourSelf First! Saying "I DO" to a Life of Passion, Power and Purpose. Claim your FREE Relationship Success Special Report at http://www.marryufirst.com/