It is ... to know that we choose the way we see ... isn't it? We choose both our view and our response to theview. Why do I think this is ... Because you have ... control
It is comforting to know that we choose the way we see the world, isn't it? We choose both our view and our response to the view. Why do I think this is comforting? Because you have the ultimate control to change your perceptions and reactions. For some it is not comforting, it's terrifying! What would happen if you had no one to blame your feelings on?
You've probably all heard the saying, "You'll be about as happy as you make up your mind to be." There is so much truth in that. I remember when I really understood that truth. I was a young single mom with three children and had just been awarded the custody of the children and all the family debts. The choice was clear. Option One: "Ain't it awful!" followed by justifiable depression. Option Two: "He done me wrong!" followed by justifiable anger. Option Three: "Here's a challenge!" followed by determination to create something better than ever. Simplistic, for sure, but it makes the point. When you know that you choose your perception of an event or situation, you can be empowered to choose the response to it that fits your values.
It's usually easy to find a lot of agreement for the negative responses in life. For example, it is not difficult to find someone to complain to, and with, in the coffee room at work. What if you simply stopped doing that? Focused on the positive, or said nothing. What if you made an agreement with yourself that whatever you said in future would be solution-oriented rather than problem-oriented? Stepped past the problem and into possible solutions! This is not denying the problem. Of course, they need to be identified. They just don't need all that investment of time and emotion.
Identify and move to solution!
Remember to ask for help! It is a great compliment to others to ask for their help. It shows confidence in their ability to generate solutions with you...not for you!
For today, notice your focus. Is it on problems or solutions? How quickly can you reassemble your thoughts to say something that focuses on solutions?
Rhoberta Shaler, PhD Keynotes, Seminars & Coaching for entrepreneurs & professionals who want the motivation & strategies to achieve, to lead and to live richly. Creator of the Living Richly™ Program Host of Living Richly™ on www.wsRadio.ws. Author of OPTIMIZE Your Day! Practical Wisdom for Optimal Living Optimize Life Now! San Diego, CA www.OptimizeLifeNow.com
