Do you have a friend who tends to well up with ... easily? Those tender ones who won't hurt a flea,and whom you ... accuse of going ... with ... do you steer clear of them
Do you have a friend who tends to well up with tears very easily? Those tender ones who won't hurt a flea, and whom you sometimes accuse of going overboard with generosity?
Or do you steer clear of them because their tears make you uncomfortable? I know, I know. I've got some friends who avoid me and are embarrassed to death if they see me tear up, and my face gets sort of scrunchy and red. And wet. Mine's awash in tears so quickly. Would I embarrass you?
Let's look at the ones who always have their emotions in check and never blush or shed a tear. Somewhere, somehow, those people have learned to cover up and hide their feelings. However, with that, given the right circumstances and temptations, comes the ability to be deceptive. Such a friend can fake a friendly enthusiasm, but be plotting a revenge on a lower floor in their soul. I used to admire them; now I stop and listen for my intuition to reveal their true motives.
I suggest that you deliberately choose us easy-weepy tender-hearted ones as your best friends. I'll tell you why.
The ones that cry may embarrass you in public, but only as long as you allow yourself to feel marked out. You will always know what they are thinking and feeling, and generally it will be in your favour, rather than their own. These tender ones empathize with and cheer the loser, and sometimes you feel like a loser, right?
People with a tender conscience are able to hear the voice of God, and are the most likely to experience His angels carrying and protecting them. You're safer in their presence than on your own.
Those with a clear conscience before God will be happier and content with little things, and not so likely to be demanding of you. It also means you'll seldom find them bitter and thus withering in their bones, and drying you up with them.
Be unashamed when your friends cry...it's a good sign they are not afraid to be vulnerable, for only the vulnerable allows themselves the luxury of loving and being loved. They also know intuitively that if you want to handle roses you'll have to accept some thorn scratches.
Smile, don't fight the tear trembling in your own eye, and join in the anguish or joys of the moment.
If you're shopping around for new friends because one has wounded or disappointed you, go among the kind, gentle people, and watch for one who weeps or laughs easily, is open and vulnerable, and with a clear, tender conscience. Now show that one the same kind of loyal care, openness, and identify with this one's pain or joy.
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