A committed, lifelong relationship with another human
being is a simple, obvious, and profound source of happiness, but
relationships ring in low on many couples’ list of priorities. Become aware
of relationship-negative messages you give yourself and others, and
then intentionally shift them to positive messages
The world is demanding and constantly changing. People tend to
ignore one of their most important anchors for intellectual sanity,
emotional security, and spiritual wisdom—their primary relationship
with a mate. A committed, lifelong relationship with another human
being is a simple, obvious, and profound source of happiness, but
relationships ring in low on many couples’ list of priorities. Although
people might say their relationship is very important, their actual
behavior contradicts them. Individuals become preoccupied with worldly
matters (careers, material goods, social position) and begin to take
their partners for granted. When attention goes elsewhere, the
relationship anchor cuts loose and the relationship drifts out to sea.
This situation does not just happen to you. You are not the helpless
victim of a world characterized by the popular, albeit misinformed,
saying “Life is hard and then you die.” In fact, you are a co-creator
of your situation and you can just as easily create something different
and new using the power of Mind Freedom. How To Think About Your Relationship
Your relationship success flows from paying sustained attention to your
relationship. How you think about your relationship is typically
dictated by learned beliefs and assumptions, many of which are negative
and can lead you from one relationship failure to another. Become aware
of relationship-negative messages you give yourself and others, and
then intentionally shift them to positive messages. Here are two
examples:
1. Having time for each other. Want more time with your partner?
Focus on your desire to be together. Picture the moments you’ve had together and the pleasure that brings.
If
other thoughts begin to whiningly intrude (“But we have so much to do.
We can’t take time even though I want to. Other things are more
pressing.”) let them pass through.
Replace them with:
“We do have a lot going on in our lives, but we’re important and I want
more time together. I know we can find some way to make that happen.”
Possibilities
will present themselves; situations will arise when you can choose to
spend time together or not. Seize those opportunities.
2. Sustainability of Relationships. Want to spend a lifetime with your mate?
Picture the two of you growing happy and healthy together into old age.
When
learned assumptions insinuate themselves into your head (“Most
relationships don’t last,” “Passion dies,” “Lovers grow apart.”) send
them out the window.
Replace them with: “Our relationship will thrive throughout the years.”
Act on every opportunity that emerges to intensify your connection.
Al Link and Pala Copeland own and operate 4 Freedoms Relationship
Tantra. They regularly host lover's romantic weekends near Ottawa
Canada, and weeklong retreats in exotic locations. For more info Visit www.tantra-sex.com, www.sexyspiritualrelationships.com and their blog www.askaboutloveandsex.com or send email: 4freedoms@tantraloving.com
