Having a direction is a vital part of being a conscious adult and in any personal development journey. Moving from an unconscious existence to conscious life requires - among others - passion, direction, and goals. This ingredient is a major feature in the life of every great leader. Develop it with information and practical advice in this article.
In Part one (which can be found at the Urban Monk website), we covered what passions are, and how to find out what yours are. But it’s that simple. Most people have fears that stand in the way.
What’s your fear saying right now?
You have bills to pay? Yes. And yes, there are other people you have to consider when you make your decisions. Yes, to many of your objections.
But you can start small. You don’t have to change your whole life around immediately; that is uncalled-for and frightening.
Instead, spend an hour a day following what you want to do. If it’s a different career, for example, study it part-time; start putting money aside for it. If it’s a better body, work out. If it’s a new skill, get a book or a tutor and practise. Sign up for night classes. Seems like I’m drilling this into you, but the first step is the hardest – and many people don’t want to take it.
Follow your bliss, and everything else will fall into place! It’s not hard work if you are doing what you love.
Remember: You won’t die if you give up an hour of TV or spend an hour less with your friends. But - you’ll die inside if you don’t follow your passion.
Effect on attractiveness and social life
This is also known as “having a life.” Having a life is not working, and then spending your free time with your friends or partner. Having a life is working towards your goals, and enjoying yourself every step of the way.
From a male perspective and experience, this is one of the factors that contribute to your attractiveness. Almost every woman I’ve met has told me they love a guy with a passion. What it is doesn’t really matter. It’s the passion they love.
Being true to yourself
Once you have a passion, and it develops into a burning desire that takes over your life, let nothing deter you. Not your partner, not your parents, nothing and no-one. Now you have to use common sense here. If your passion is stealing underwear, then yes, let the police deter you.
But if your passion is legal - muscle cars, boxing, philosophy, or your jazz band – follow it.
Many people will try to put you down. Out of fear, out of jealousy, out of spite, it doesn’t matter what their motives are. Others, most likely your partner, may want to shift that focus away from your passion on to them. It validates them; affirms their value for them. Strangely enough, if you’re a man, women will often get dejected if you do stray from your path for them.
Why is this so? In my experience, they might want to test you to see if you are strong enough to follow your goal. If you are not – you lose masculinity and hence value in her eyes. It has happened to me before; I gave up my passion to spend time with my lady, thinking it would make her happy. Instead it made her lose respect for me.
Start living!
Let nothing deter you from your path. Sure, take some time off to smell the roses once in a while. But always remember that to lose your direction is to lose yourself. You’re on your way to mastery!
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