How To Get Your Ex To Chase You!

There's a scenario after the end of a relationship that involves two types of people. One is a distancer and one is a pursuer. One person creates distance and so it causes the other to pursuer. And visa versa.

Distancers often distance themselves because the pursuer is pushing really hard. Pursuers want to sort things out, they want to talk about it, they text, email and phone.

They want contact, contact, contact.

But all it does is make the distancer distance themselves even more and gives them reason as to why they were right in deciding to either break up or take a break.

So here's what you do so you can get your distancing ex to chase you.

No contact, no contact, no contact.

Stay away. As much as it might drive you crazy because for a pursuer then distance makes them anxious. You feel you can'd DO anything.

But for the distancer it gives them some breathing space to actually miss you.

And for you, the pursuer, if you can handle not doing anything to close the gap between you, then it will also give you some distance to take stock of your life and perhaps spend some time mulling over the relationship and what you can eventually try to do differently when your ex calls.

Chances are you're used to wanting to connect with that person and sort it out. But sometimes we need to do some of the relationship sorting on our own. If all we ever do is distance and pursue then we're not actually getting below that level of game and sorting out what really is going on with the relationship and asking ourselves what we need and want.

So spending time in your own space will create a vacuum and it wont be long before your ex calls.

Cause they most certainly will. It's only a matter of time because your ex will wonder where the heck you are. They won't be used to YOU creating space between you.