The desire to love someone through and through and to be loved that way in return, for a lifetime, burns in almost every heart. You might believe that continuously creating love is an impossibly daunting task. Perhaps you’ve been through painful unions before, and your heart is battered and broken.
The desire to love someone through and through and to be loved that way in return, for a lifetime, burns in almost every heart. Although we are all truly worthy of such love, it is not something that will usually happen by itself. A superb relationship, one that satisfies and stimulates to the core, is an extraordinary accomplishment, comparable to supreme achievement in realms of business, the arts, science, and sports. Such relationships are rare not because people lack the capacity for loving but because they don’t know how to make the shift from falling in love to sustaining that love over many years by creating and recreating it again and again. You might believe that continuously creating love is an impossibly daunting task. Perhaps you’ve been through painful unions before, and your heart is battered and broken. Or your present relationship, although comfortable, has become just a little boring, stuck in a rut of mundane sameness. Then again, you might be at the outset of a wondrous romance and only slightly haunted by a niggling suspicion that your passion will eventually fade. Whatever your present circumstances, do not allow preconceptions and fears to impede your heart’s aspirations. Living a lifelong, passionate, and intimate union is not a complicated undertaking. On the contrary, it is quite simple and well within your abilities. The fundamental requirement? Rediscover and reunite your Four Freedoms: Body, Mind, Heart, and Soul. These Four Freedoms are the essence of human nature, yours and everyone else’s.
THE FIRST FREEDOM: BODY Awaken your senses. See, hear, smell, taste, and feel love. Know your body as a divine temple of love, carrier of the Soul, manifestation of God and Goddess. Become truly at home in your body, at ease and at peace in your skin. Allow yourself to experience physical pleasure. Feed yourself and all those around you with sublime, intimate, human touch. You are your body. Your body is freedom. THE SECOND FREEDOM: MIND There are no limits. All limits are self-imposed. Change thought from your master to your powerful servant, a tool of your liberation. Turn your thinking on, and turn it off, when you want to. You have the power over what you think about. You also have the power over how you think about what you think about.
THE THIRD FREEDOM: HEART Heal your broken heart. Open your healed heart. Give and receive love easily, naturally, spontaneously, and unconditionally. Discover your lover within. Love yourself. Accept yourself. Forgive yourself. Know that you are worthy of love. Acknowledge and welcome the love of others. Dare to be the great lover you are. You are your heart. Your heart is freedom. THE FOURTH FREEDOM: SOUL Your body, mind, and heart are windows to your soul. Soul transcends space and time. It is outside of cause and effect. Soul is complete and perfect. When you communicate with your higher self, with God and Goddess, you are communicating with Soul. Soul has your body, mind, and heart within it. Soul is what you are. Your soul is part of the Soul. Your soul is freedom.
Excerpted from our new book Sensual Love Secrets for Couples: The Four Freedoms of Body, Mind, Heart and Soul, by Al Link and Pala Copeland, Llewellyn, 2007
4 Freedoms Integration Exercise - Under the Sky
Know that you are part of this wondrous vastness. The universe or cosmos contains everything that exists. The universe is believed to "vibrate" out of "strings." According to Dan Falk, "Each string is as small compared to an atom as an atom is compared to the solar system."
4 Freedoms Integration Exercise - What's Good?
Generally your consciousness works to create more of what you pay attention to. Be careful what you pay attention to because you are going to get more of it.
4 Freedoms Integration Exercise - Seeing in the Dark
This exercise forces you to rely on senses other than sight. You might be amazed at how much you rely on sight for so many things. You might also be amazed at how many things you can do for yourself without being able to see.
