If you’re timid, meeting women will truly be something you wrestle with as a guy. Girls are supposed to be more passive, but men really need to stop being shy if they expect any amount of success in dating.
If you are shy,
dating girls will definitely be something you have difficulty with as a man. Women are supposed to be less aggressive, but guys really need to stop being shy if they want any level of success with women.
Do not fret, I know where you’re at. I used to be seriously shy. Believe it or not, I was so shy that most of the people I went to school with don’t have any idea who I am. I was essentially invisible in those days. Things got a bit better in university, but I didn’t really make an effort to stop being shy until I was dumped by my girlfriend with only one friend in the world.
Something needed to be done.
This is how I did it, and I’m going to suggest you give it a shot too if you want to stop being shy and ultimately get some social confidence:
You will need to start out moving outside of your comfort zone. We are going to make this progressive so don’t be nervous about being tossed in over your head too early.
The first step I did was I made a decision that I would merely say “hello” to a hundred strangers in one 7-day period. This seems like tons of work to start with. In truth, if you’re as timid as I used to be, this could appear to be quite a terrifying challenge. But please bear with me.
Keep a little note card on hand to keep an eye on the number of people you say “hello” to. The very first couple of greetings will seem very odd, but don’t throw in the towel. After a few times, it'll get less difficult.
Greet people strolling down the street or waiting at a bus stop or in line at the deli. Just simply say “hello” without any anticipation of how they could reply. How they answer means nothing about you. You are merely being warm and friendly. Remember that. How they answer only lets you know what sort of person they are. If you say “howdy,” then think of it as a victory regardless of how they react.
What you are working at here is incrementally becoming comfortable with the idea of going outside of yourself and interacting with people. We are also teaching you one of the critical considerations you are going to learn so that you can give up being timid, which is to distinguish yourself from how others react to you.
When you are completed with the first task, make your objective on the second week to start a discussion with 20 strangers. Keep the same thinking and merely strike up something basic by making remarks about things you notice. You could try “Hey, did you get the chocolate muffin? Is it any good??” or “Hey, that is a really nice shirt. Where did you get it?”
Once more, we’re getting you to stop being timid by pushing you outside of your personal comfort zone. Do not be worried about talking to girls that you want to date. Speak to pretty much everybody. When you can perfect this talent on men and elderly people, then you’ll be ready to be friendly and social when it is important–when you spot a woman you would like to speak to.
This is how I trained myself to stop being timid. It'll really work if you stay with it. So commit to taking two weeks to begin getting yourself outside your comfort zone. It may seem frightening at first, but I promise you that the dread vanishes entirely after a short time and, believe it or not, it will indeed become pleasurable to meet new people.