The Laws Of Infidelity

Has there ever been a case of infidelity where no one got hurt?  It's possible, but very unlikely.

So how come there are so many adulterous instances taking place?  Well, people are highly capable of being selfish, and especially in relationships, for relationships are usually based on reciprocal needs and desires, and are seldom based in pure love.

And should anyone doubt this, then look no further than the percentage rates of adultery: Male adultery at 60%, and females at 40% and rising.  Clearly, relationships that are based purely on romanticism are not enough to withstand their desires for something else when their needs aren't being met.  In adultery, one partner is going to get seriously hurt, and mature adults are very much aware of this.  But, when the time comes, and the conditions are ripe, they just don't care. Off they go in something of a whirlwind dance of selfishness.

And one of the strange facts of life is that very few of us would reprimand such acts.  Indeed, there are instances in which friends of the adulterer will collude and almost ecourage such acts.  It all seems like fair game.  But is it?  Is it fair that someone should be so decieved, that they should be treated so shoddily and disrespectfully?  How many other areas of life is this kind of behaviour accepted?  Most decent people wouldn't tolerate rascism, or sexism, or any other 'ism' you care to mention.  But the psychological violence that infidelity is, seems to be tolerated with alarming passivity.

And why is that?  Why is it that people with otherwise decent morals will suddenly turn a blind eye to an affair?  Perhaps because it is accepted: it's acceptable behaviour to be passive in such instances.  In many countries, adultery isn't a criminal offence.  Why is that?  Is it because many of our world leaders are themselves engaged in such acts?  Certainly, that doesn't send the best message to its citizens, because the sub text of this omission of making it law, is that we tolerate infidelity.  And does it take a giant leap of imagination that we once tolerated slavery in much the same way.  Yes, that is an extreme example, but it all comes down to human beings being treated without respect.  And it seems that at the present time we are quite prepared to accept this particular aspect of disrespect and violence.

What will it take for this attitude, this passive attitude to change?  Will there come a time when it is happening so much that it will reach alarming statistics.  So much emphasis is given to the sanctity of marriage and of the family, and yet at the same time there is this dreadful hypocrisy running in parrallel.  Will it change?  Time will tell.