PRACTICAL STEPS TO ENCHANTMENT – Part 1

In other weeks, you have learned many ways to get in touch with your personal enchantment. In this article, I would like to share several personal stories of enchantment with you.

Kay's happiest moments as a child were with a pencil and a sketchpad or watercolors. Her life as an adult has been very stressful: difficult teenage children, and a marriage that left much to be desired. One of her goals in treatment with me was to get back some of the joy she experienced as a child. She consciously practiced taking time for herself everyday, in order to draw.

Talking about her vacation to the Bahamas, which she went on recently, she said, "It was filled with the usual family bickering, but I'm proud of myself that every night, as the sun set, I was able to get out my sketch pad and draw. I didn't allow my family to get in the way of this wonderful part of me that I've rediscovered. Even the first night after we got home, I got out my paints and put in some personal art time. I love being able to own my own talent, and realize that no one can interfere with it. I share everything else in my life, but my talent belongs to me alone. I love every moment of my "me" time.

Tess enjoyed making doll's clothing as a child. The feel and the sight of the needle flying in and out of the cloth was very soothing to her. As a young adult, she had a boyfriend who at first seemed to be a perfect match with her. But soon his negativity got her down and made her feel unhappy. She found that she was not using her artistic talents anymore. She realized that she was trying to deny certain parts of herself in order to make the relationship work. But in spite of her efforts, it just wasn't working. When Tess finally got the courage to suggest joint therapy to her boyfriend, he declined, and after much fighting he suggested that they split up. And they did break up.

Rather than feeling the depression that she expected, she found herself quickly able to return to many of her artistic areas of endeavors. She started to make handmade clothing and to work with other artists. Tess said it best when she commented, "I was able to tune into my younger self." Interestingly enough, she soon found a mate much more suited to her in temperament, a man who appreciated her artistic as well as practical side.

Tess is a good example of someone who had to make a decision in terms of meeting her needs in a relationship. Freeing herself from a man who did not have enough regard for her to work on her relationship allowed her to once again actualize her own enchantment.

We can come to enchantment only as we spend more and more of our time doing what suits us, either in both our personal and professional lives. Sometimes this is hard, as we struggle with other issues such as whether we 'deserve' to do what feels good. Sometimes it is easy to build in more time that really works for us as we thrive and see that the better it feels, the better we are at living and 'being'.

I can't promise you which road you will travel to achieve more states of well-being, to feel more whole, to feel more filled with positive purpose, but I can promise you that it is definitely the road to travel! Come back next week for more examples of recognizing what works for us as I share more vignettes with you.