Ending a relationship and moving on without your love is one of the more difficult things you'll ever have to do in your life. These tips are guidelin...
Ending a relationship and moving on without your love is one of the more difficult things you'll ever have to do in your life. These tips are guidelines for what to do once you've come to the decision that the relationship cannot be saved. These tips will help in a number of ways - they'll help to heal the pain,
and they'll you to start getting on with your life.
How to Get Over a Love Tip #1
First, make the relationship be really over - cut off all contact with him. Don't call him. Don't text him. Don't write him a snail mail letter. Don't hang out by his house just to "bump into him." Do you want to get over him? Then you cannot keep on communicating with him, no matter how great the temptation might be "just to hear his voice . . ." Another thing that people sometimes do is pester his friends with questions about how he's doing. Trust me - he'll be fine. And you will, too, once you push him out of hour head!
How to Get Over a Love Tip #2
Second, talk to your friends and family. These are the people you've lived with, people you trust with your life. The chances are good that some or all of them have been through what you're experiencing - maybe they have some insights they can share with you! Get together with these folks as often as you can and do something interesting together. If you spend time with family and friends, it'll preoccupy you, so that you won't spend as much time thinking about your lost love.
How to Get Over a Love Tip #3
Third, don't try to bottle up your feelings. Consider all the different emotions inside you - why keep them bottled up? Letting your emotions loose has a pretty cathartic effect, and usually involves a physical display like crying. Go ahead and do whatever it takes, as long as you don't hurt yourself. This isn't the time to restrain yourself - you really need to let it all out. The idea here is really to flush out those bad emotions - get them all out of you. If you're polite and restrained during the process - that is, if you don't really let go and let them loose - then you're going to have a real hard time moving on.
How to Get Over a Love Tip #4
Fourth, get busy! Each of us has a list of things we want to do once we get some time - you've got some time now, so get out your list! The reason you're spending so much of your time thinking your lost love is that you have nothing else occupying your mind. There's no limit to the number of things you can take up - gardening and woodworking if you like to stay close to home, or hiking, or learning something new like a language or musical instrument . . . The only requirement is that it be something you really want to do. You'll have a great time learning or experiencing new things, on top of which you'll be learning that you can have a life and a good time without him!
How to Get Over a Love Tip #5
The fifth step is never forget that your capacity for love is infinite, and you're never "too old" to find new love. Often, people in your situation will think that they'll never find another love like the one you just lost. But it really is possible to move on and fall in love again. Who knows? What if the love that just left your life wasn't really the one for you? How would you find the right one if you're tied down in a relationship? It'll require some effort on your part, of course - true love doesn't always just fall into your lap.
My point in writing this was to help you get over a love - I hope it helped. In the end, the greatest healing power is time, and every new day will heal your pain a little more. The better you follow these steps, the faster you'll get over him and be able to move on.
