How to Initiate Sexual Contact with Women and Why This Works

So, you are on a date with a beautiful woman. The conversation is good, but it is getting late and you are facing the challenge of closing the deal. Don’t worry. You are not the only guy in that situation. Actually, many guys find that closing the deal with a woman is challenging.

There are a few steps you must cover before you can reach this stage, though. Obviously, the first thing you need to do is to make sure she is attracted to you. Her body language can be a good sign as to whether or not she is attracted. Second, it is very important that you begin gaining her trust and increasing her comfort level with you so she will go back with you to your place. Third, you must transition from conversation to initial sexual contact to move things in the right direction towards sex.

Now, let’s imagine you have successfully made it through steps one and two. She is, definitely, attracted to you and is already back at your place. You can now join the many guys who are good at getting a woman back to their house. Congratulations! But, many guys are lost when it comes to the third step of initiating sexual contact.

Does this sound familiar? Or, maybe you are just hoping to avoid this situation. Well, I will let you in on a secret. Initiate sexual contact with this one simple move…KISS her! Yes, that’s it. This is the only way you can transition from conversation to more physical and sexual contact.

However, this is not to say that you should just start kissing her the moment she enters your home. Not only will this approach backfire, you will likely ruin any trust and comfort level you have managed to establish thus far. You must do a few things first to ensure that the rest of the date goes smoothly.

First, we need to go back and focus on the trust factor. By the time she gets back to your place, you should already have started to build some trust but at this stage you need to maintain it. Obviously, she already trusts you enough to come back to your house. For most women, entering our house adds to her trust since it helps assure her that you are “normal.”

You do need to get her to your place, though, and the best way to do this is to keep things casual with no pressure. Remember, during the date you are trying to build her trust and too much pressure at this point will have the opposite effect. Try casually talking about something at your house, maybe something you collect or recently purchased, and mention that you would like her to see it.

When you get to your place, be sure to mention that you will show her quickly but that she doesn’t need to stay long. Say something like, “It will only take a couple minutes, so you won’t have to stay long. But, I would love to show you.” This takes the pressure off her and helps her relax. The last thing you want to do is make her uncomfortable, since she is probably already subconsciously aware of what you are really up to.

This approach works well because it eases her mind by giving her a clear reason why she is entering your home. It also makes her feel like you are not expecting her stay. Again, your goal at this point is to make her feel more comfortable and relaxed about coming back to your place. Even if she is a little suspicious of your real goal, this at least gives her a pretense for initially coming over.

Once she is in your home you must continue to increase her comfort level and build that trust you have already started. Again, you need to keep things light and casual. Give her a brief tour of your house and show her some things around the house, maybe your movie or music collection. These can also be great items to help keep the conversation flowing if you find yourself stumbling.

Once you sense that she is more comfortable, you are now ready to show her what she originally came over to see. However, you must plan ahead by following the tips below:

* Make sure what you are looking at is in your bedroom. This means that your microwave or refrigerator is not a good choice!

* Have some back-up items in your bedroom in the event the conversation starts to simmer and you run out of things to talk about. Here’s an idea: Make sure you have a CD player in your bedroom and tell her you want her to here one of your “favorite songs.” Like I said, movies and music can really help a conversation along.

* Do not provide chairs in your bedroom for her to sit on, but rather only have a bed. This will help with the logistics of planning your move.

Okay. The time has come. Go ahead and show her what you “wanted her to see” and be sure to keep the conversation going for at least fifteen minutes and maybe a little longer if possible which is why the back-up items mentioned above can be helpful. Once she is more comfortable and relaxed, you can now initiate the kiss.

Do not be nervous or shy at this point. Remember, she has already shown you she is interested by coming over. The best approach to initiating the kiss is to just go for it. If this direct approach will not work for some reason, try showing her something with the goal in mind of moving closer to her at which point you should kiss her. Once you have initiated the sexual contact, let things take their course and gradually move past the first kiss and move your way closer to sex.

You can see that it is very important that you take some time to build her trust and comfort level. A little patience can payoff in the end. This system is a great way to initiate sexual contact. It shows you how to build and maintain her trust, increase her comfort level and show her that you are a fun guy. Ultimately, this helps you get her into the right mindset towards sex.