The solution to being overweight isn't as easy as focussing on eating less, although that should work it's unlikely to in practice as the original problem hasn't been fixed. In this article I'd like to explain what I meant by that and give some suggestions for the way out.
In a previous article I said that we all get fat for a reason, overeating is a symptom of something wrong. That means that the solution isn't as easy as focussing on eating less, although that should work it's unlikely to in practice as the original problem hasn't been fixed. In this article I'd like to explain what I meant by that and give some suggestions for the way out.
Your self esteem is our own internal measures of how much we feel loved, accepted and value ourselves. It slowly develops and usually by the end of our teens is fully formed. This is the filter that we look through to see the world. It's also how we imagine the world sees us too.
My strong belief is that during our upbringing, no matter how loving our parents were they didn't 100% fulfil our needs. It is just impossible to do so they are bound to fail. We would have viewed some of that behaviour as abusive - "they hurt me on purpose".
This is the starting point. We all believe - to a greater or lesser extent - that we had a rough childhood. Without doubt some children do get abused, either physically or sexually (it's estimated that 1 in 4 obese people have been abused compared to only 1 in 20 of healthy weight people). That is a rare but sad reality. What makes it even sadder is that the shame that goes with it often means that it is a guilty secret that the child keeps from the world. Over years it gets lost and we 'forget about it'. Only the hurt hasn't gone away it's just under the surface.
This lost hurt gets carried into our adult lives and can have big consequences. We can't hold on to a relationship, or live a healthy life as we re-live the hurt from our childhood. Without going too deep into the psychology of the problem just accept that although the 'abusers' have physically stopped we carry on abusing ourselves.
So what's all this got to do with you being overweight?
Everything!
We all know how to live a healthy life. There are lots of different ways, choosing an exercise that you like, eating healthy food that you like, it's easy!
So why aren't you doing it? How come you have tried a dozen diets and they haven't worked for you?
Because there is stuff that went on during your childhood that hasn't been resolved yet. There are problems you have that are buried because they are too uncomfortable to deal with. Its not because you have failed, it's certainly not your fault that bad stuff happened.
You can work on this problem and with good guidance and support you can get through this. It will take courage and a determination to improve your life. This is more difficult than a simple diet but the rewards are immense. Imagine your happy life then decide if the effort is worth it.
How to Chose Your Wedding Flowers
The wedding bouquet and centerpiece are two focal points for the wedding. The dress may fade into a distant memory, unless it is extremely extravagant (and hugely expensive) but the flowers can make a lasting impression.
Why Did You Get Fat?
Why did you get fat? It's a simple enough question - and the easy answer is that you ate too much over a sustained period. But that just leads to another question; why did you eat too much? I suspect if you are like me, it took some pretty bad times to get you where you are today.
