How a Divorce Lawyer Can Help You Win Custody
An experienced divorce lawyer is the best thing to have on your side when entering into a custody dispute. You want someone that knows the ropes, has seen every type of situation, and knows what to expect from the other side.
He can put your own faults in the best possible light and play to your strengths in front of the judge. Better than that,
he can make a cohesive argument as to why the children would be better off in your custody. No one likes to see children become part of a give and take game, but sometimes it is in their own best interests.
Armchair legal experts like to pretend that women do not automatically have an advantage over men when it comes to a custody dispute, but any divorce lawyer who is telling the truth will tell you that it’s hogwash. Actually, you don’t even need an insider to tell you. Just look at the cold, hard statistics and ask yourself why the mother is granted custody over 90% of the time. Are the fathers really that bad? Do they not want custody of their children? Sometimes this is indeed the case, but it’s probably not in 90% of the cases, huh? If you are a man going into a custody dispute, you need to go beyond the burden of proof when it comes to convincing a judge that the kids would be better off with you.
Contrary to what you might have seen in movies, few judges are overwhelmingly moved by passionate arguments from either the mother or the father. Sure, it comes into play, but the real decision maker is the evidence. That’s why you must present as much evidence as possible when it comes to proving your case. Keep a journal of situations you think the court might find interesting. Note situations where your children would have been better off in your care. Note anything your spouse has said that could be damning before the judge. But don’t get so caught up that you stretch the truth. If you get caught lying in court, it could mean the disintegration of your powerful case.
A good divorce lawyer will also be there to tell you when it’s time to tone it down. There’s a danger when it comes to fighting too hard and dirty in custody battles. After all, you’ll still have to make some sort of arrangements with your ex and you’ll still see them on a regular basis in many cases. Don’t make the future harder than it needs to be, on either you, your spouse, or your children.
