Why Women are Resistant to Anal Sex

Do you cringe when someone mentions anal sex? Does the idea of his hard on ramming into your butt give you the eeby-jeebies? Do you get embarrassed just thinking about him going in where your poop comes out?

Well, the good news, is that you’re not alone. Lots of women—maybe even most women—have negative associations with anal sex. There are two main reasons for this: The “ew” factor and the “ouch” factor.

First let’s talk about the “ew” aspect of going anal. Anal sex, despite its growing popularity, is still not widely accepted as a “normal” sexual act. There is an element of taboo, and most importantly to women, an element of…grossness. Much as we many want to pleasure our man with a new and exciting move, it’s hard for us women folk to get past the idea that anal sex is…well…icky!

Most women even have this strange fantasy that maybe men don’t know that they defecate. You always hear of women holding in their BMs til they’re in a public bathroom where there’s no way their guy will hear or smell anything (sorry to be crass here). And now, you  want me to pull down my pants and you want to put your penis…where?? In that one hole that I try so hard to deny in front of you? Yuck.

Next comes the “ouch” aspect. I’m not going to lie, anal sex hurts. You need to be extremely prepared for some serious backdoor pressure when you agree to let him put his erection in that tiny tiny, not very stretchable butt hole. And while bigger may be better in some ways, if you decide to go anal, I’ll bet you wish he were…not so well endowed.

So there you have it—now you can put your hesitation into words. But that’s not the end of the conversation. Stay tuned to find out how you can change your ews and ouches into oohs and ahhs.