It's tough to find the right way to apologize to your girlfriend, isn't it? Until you do, though, you're going to have to put up with the alternating ...
It's tough to find the right way to apologize to your girlfriend,
isn't it? Until you do, though, you're going to have to put up with the alternating periods of argument and silence. Did you screw up? If you'd like to get your relationship back on an even keel, you're going to have to apologize to her, regardless of why she's upset. The future of your relationship depends on the quality of your relationship. Following these five steps should help you keep your relationship together and make it grow.
Step 1: If you're at fault, admit it.
Let's face it - admitting you're wrong is never easy. Your only reasonable first step in making amends is to admit your mistake, if in fact you made one. What kind of a man makes excuses when he's at fault? Stand up and take responsibility! This is the heart of the apology - tell her exactly what you did wrong, and promise that it won't happen again. Apologizing isn't complete if you don't take responsibility for what you did wrong.
Step 2: However she reacts, accept it.
Forgive and forget is great advice, but don't expect your girlfriend to follow it as soon as you apologize. The time will come when she'll really have forgiven you, but how long it takes depends on what you did and also on her personality. When a guy mans up and apologizes for something he does wrong, though, most girls worth keeping will appreciate it. Accepting the consequences - whatever she decides to do while she cools off - is another sign of a mature man. She'll see it as a display of sincerity and willingness to accept responsibility for what you've done. You cannot expect a successful apology if you don't follow through with this step.
Step 3: Calm down and cool off!
It's inevitable - even in the best of relationships, people will sometimes say something they later regret. Thinking things over and calming down at such times can really help a relationship, so do your best to do just that. The sort of impetuous things we say when we're angry often are regrettable when considered in the cold light of day, and so those circumstances should be avoided. Take a walk to let some time pass and tempers cool. Rational thinking is crucial in times like this.
Step 4: Pay special attention to her.
Don't just tell her you love her, do something, make a commitment of time and effort that makes the point with a bang! Whatever you do, it should be oriented to her, and you should take care of all the preparations yourself. Nice gifts also will make an impression, but you can't let them take the place of a special gesture. Whatever gesture or gestures you make, though, must be sincere and reflect your heart. If you really want her to know how sorry you feel and that you want to be building your relationship together, gestures like these are excellent approaches. All things considered, failure to make her feel good after you apologize will diminish the value and meaning of the apology.
Step 5: Don't bring it up again.
The last step in the apology is to put it to rest - let the issue die and concentrate your efforts on building your relationship together. What good will it do to remind each other of past mistakes? You need to let past mistakes die. Living for the day and building a future is difficult enough without constantly dragging up and rehashing issues from the past. Your focus now has to be on building your relationship and enjoying life together, not letting old mistakes fester in the back of your mind.
When you find yourself having to apologize to your girlfriend, keep these steps in mind. Remember, it's not unthinkable to make a mistake. When we can learn from our mistakes and put them behind us, then our lives will be better.
