That Chinese Girl Is Different (part 1)

In my own experiences traveling and dwelling overseas in China, I have met a lot of young western guys who believe they could get any Chinese girl they like, simply because they're foreign. This is a common mis-assumption among western men; several young men think that their skin color or the fact they converse English means they are an invaluable commodity in China. Well, like in the US, you can find easy ladies and there are the true girls that you would want to date or maybe marry, but what is important is you recognize that Chinese women aren't like western ladies.There are two elements that will be fundamental to your success with that Chinese woman you have had your focus on: the very first impression and making a romantic relationship. You know that first impressions help a lot, but with Chinese women it can be everything. There is a saying in Chinese, xianruweizhu (The first impression is most important), which suggests that first impressions are the strongest or most crucial time toward influencing a person. The style you dress up, the way you bring yourself, and particularly what you tell her will determine if she wants to continue conversing with you or meet you again.Once you realize you want to continue seeing this Chinese woman and you want to make her your girlfriend, you have to keep taking her out to build a romantic relationship. Now these may appear like dates, and in all fairness they're, but to the girl you're just making a romantic relationship and nothing sexual will come out of it. Don't even assume to try having a kiss until a few dates or a couple of weeks into the romantic relationship. Until she says and considers you're officially together, pressuring anything sexual might destroy the relationship. Go along with her for fun on Saturday to the mall or the movies, like a regular date, and be polite. Your Chinese lady will bear in mind how kind you were to her.The first couple of weeks with your Chinese girl definitely will seem tedious! You can't ever let your shield down and try to be at your 100%. The first impression will get her to see you once again and then you need to assemble the foundation for a romantic relationship. My biggest tip is to just never let yourself make a mistake. Don't ever do or say anything you should contemplate the outcomes of. If you are mindful and take the very first phases seriously, then you won't need to bother about your Chinese girl in the long-run.