They Don't Want to Meet Your Friends Right Now

You and your dating partner have been seeing each other for quite some time now. Things for the most part go pretty smoothly between the two of you. Any problems and concerns that arise have been worked out to everyone's satisfaction. The fact that you and your partner can work through whatever issue has raised their standing in your eyes.

However this particular subject has got you stumped. When you try to get an answer out of them, they just keep telling you to wait and give it time. One day they will be ready. You are a patient person but the fact that they don not want to meet your friends is severely testing your endurance.

It is not like you have not met their friends. Your date told you one night that the two of you were going to have a get together with his or her peeps. It was sudden but you went along with it. Some of his friends you liked; others not so much. Yet every time the occasion presented itself you were a trooper and went along no matter how you felt.

Yet when it comes to your friends it has not been a two way street, that's why it is understandable to a large degree as to why you are offended. Your friends are just as important to you. You feel good about your dating partner so you want to introduce them to your social circle.

It can be maddening but there are some avenues you may want to try before letting yourself get too worked up over it:

1. Cross Exam

Since as far as you know your date has never met your friends, then it's time you do a little investigating. Are they afraid your circle will think the two of you are getting married? It may be they are not sure of themselves and fear that your friends could form a low opinion of them and convey that attitude to you. Or it could be that they are not really that serious about the relationship and don't want anyone to get the wrong ideas. The reason you have met his friends is because they already know the score. Anything is possible so it is okay to question them. Be persistent but gentle.

2. The Ease In

There are times when meeting a new group of people feels like standing on a stage in front of total strangers. You feel like you are auditioning. That thought alone can be disconcerting to a lot of people. One of the ways to lower the stress level is to plan small get togethers. Start off by introducing your date to one friend at a time and see if that helps the situation. You can also plan an evening where there are an equal amount of their friends and yours. The trick to this is to make sure that your date does not disappear into their own little clique. Make sure there is plenty of mingling on both sides.
 
3. The War of Attrition

After considerable meditation and yoga exercises, you decide to wait it out. You feel good about your dating partner so you come to the conclusion that you are comfortable at their pace. That's not to say you don't have a timer for when your date should meet your friends but at this point you choose to let them take as long as they need. In this aspect you are confident that they will eventually come around.
 
Being introduced to each others friends should not be a nerve wracking experience but it is for some dating partners. If you are experiencing this right now with the person you are dating than see if there is anything you can do to help. However if it comes to the point where you see they are not budging and your friends are important to you then you may want to reconsider the future of the dating relationship