3 tips to make you a better lover -- tonight

Jul 16
08:08

2012

Noel J Ireland

Noel J Ireland

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So many people feel that the key to good sex lies in looks, lingerie, and other superficial visual aspects. While it is true that men are typically more visual than women when it comes to arousal, making sure to involve all the senses can help lead to a more steamy time in bed than the perfect body on a model.

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So many people feel that the key to good sex lies in looks, 3 tips to make you a better lover -- tonight Articles lingerie, and other superficial visual aspects.  While it is true that men are typically more visual than women when it comes to arousal, making sure to involve all the senses can help lead to a more steamy time in bed than the perfect body on a model.

Here are 3 real secrets to great lovemaking.
 
1) Foreplay All Day

While true for both sexes, this is especially true for women. When they feel loved and appreciated, it helps to unleash their inner Goddess in the bedroom. Taking time to do something sweet for them, such as the stereotypical flowers or helping around the house will fill her with feelings of love that can be felt in the bedroom. For men, try to find something that works for your man. Wearing that skirt he loves even though you hate it, or rubbing sore muscles after a long day of work are a couple of examples. Be creative in finding ways to show your partner they are important to you and you’ll be amazed how this non-sexual act can really steam up the bedroom.

2) The 5 Senses

Play around with stimulating forgotten senses, and maybe even removing others. Undress each other slowly in the dark, with a focus on touch and not sight. Whisper sweet things during lovemaking, pillow talk does not have to be kinky to be steamy. For the experimental, blindfolds or even hands tied up can be very erotic. Vanilla is said to be the most sexually arousing smell for men, but play with a variety of scents to find your hot spots. Use these scents during foreplay, such as in massage lotions or sexy scented sheets. The use of flavored oils, strawberries, and whopped cream is nothing new, but the stickiness can be a turn off for many. Instead, enjoy the taste of each other. The taste of a kiss or the saltiness of skin can be very sexy and enjoyable, perhaps consider showering together so that you can then taste your partner’s clean skin and get to know their personal “flavor.”

3) Eye Contact

Many people close their eyes during love making, either from shyness or from being lost in the physical pleasure of the moment. Making and keeping eye contact can keep partners in the moment, and a smoldering stare shows your partner that you are enjoying what is happening and them specifically.  Eye contact is a way to see what your partner is feeling and can help you both to enjoy all the aspects of love making together.