How to Influence Your Ex and Win Him Back

You've just broken up with the love of your life. Now, picture yourself 3 months from now. What do you look like? How do you feel? What have you accomplished? Notice I didn't ask you if you are back with your ex. The questions I asked are about those things over which you have control. You have it within your power to look and feel better than you ever have and 3 months is plenty of time to accomplish some great things. You can even learn how to influence your ex and win him back!

Ask yourself, "Do I have any control over my ex's desire, inclination, or decision to take me back?" Short of holding a gun to his head, the answer is no, but, with careful planning and the right moves, you can have some influence on the matter and you can create the circumstances that can make him or her fall for you all over again.

First Things First - Stop Doing This Now!

1. Quit being miserable. There's no reason to be. Pain and suffering are inevitable, but misery is always optional. The pain will ease but only if you don't allow yourself to wallow in the muck.
2. Quit wasting time and energy on those things you can't control and focus on those that you can. You can't control what your ex thinks or feels about you, but you're in the driver's seat when it comes to getting yourself to happy land.

Now, Go to Work - On You!

The only commitment you have right now is to you. Your family and friends will understand especially if they know you are doing this for you. You still need to do some healing but that will happen while you're having fun doing other things. The greatest influence you can have over your ex is by clearly demonstrating how irresistible you are.

By re-engaging with the world, reconnecting with yourself and your friends you'll remember how much you missed the the freedom to pursue your own desires. As you're working on mind, body and spirit, you begin to realize how great it is to feel so good about yourself. When you're ready to drop a line to your ex, your words will be very sincere and tantalizing when you tell him or her appreciate what they did for you and leave with a big smile.

Package that all up, and then check his control. Does this work all of the time? More often than not. Will you open yourself up for disappointment? It depends on how much you're enjoying the new you. You may be too busy to be hurt.

Taking action now is the key to learning how to influence your ex and get him back. My strongest advice, is to go at it with a plan and don't go it alone. There are proven methods, with steps and language to follow and that can help you achieve optimal influence and positive results. I would consider an expert source such ashttp://reviveourlove.com. They helped me tremendously. I'm pulling for you! Good Luck!