ARE YOU NOT AN IDEAL MOTHER?

“I may not be perfect, but when I look at my children, I know that I got something in my life perfectly right.” 

The precious mother-child bond is established even before the child is born.

At some or the other point of life all of us have faced this serpentine line of never-ending questions and encroaching suggestions, isn’t it? We have and shall continue to face it at every stage of our little one's growth. Now sit back and introspect.

Does your child have food to eat?

A shelter and clothes to wear?

If the answer to all 2 is YES! Then, just sit back and enjoy that glass of wine.

According to MASLOW's hierarchy of requirements, the physiological/basic needs of food, housing, and clothes are all that a kid requires until the age of nine. So, the next time a nosy neighbour, a family member, a relative, or anyone else on Planet Earth attempts to invade your personal space, convey MASLOW's theory to them.

Why does the baby cry so much…Is she hungry? Are you up-to-date with your child’s vaccination schedule? Do you give appropriate colic medication for your child? Why are you scolding her, she is just a child? Why are you force-feeding her, let her eat what she wants to? What kind of a mom are you. Introducing your child to TV and mobile at this age? You are back to work already. Your child is barely 6 months!

Women and mothers have always been subjected to suffocating scrutiny, judgmental gazes, kitty party gossips and sometimes harsh treatment. But how long will we succumb to these unfair deals? Shouldn’t fathers be the gossip of the hour sometimes? Hear it out and hear it out LOUD and CLEAR. A father is equally responsible for his child’s well-being as much as a mother. It’s a Joint Account and not Personal Savings. 

To combat the unfair treatment and mark an end to these questions, what measures can we take?

1. Parents should sit together and decide on a broad perspective on how they would like to bring up their child/children. Which should be the negotiable and which ones are the non-negotiable rules of parenthood?
2. List out the to-do-things and share responsibilities
3. Be the support of strength and understanding to each other during adverse situations even from family members – this is crucial for building each other’s confidence and avoiding any uncomfortable interference later on
4. Ladies, your individuality cannot be only defined by motherhood, so invest time for your own self. Invest time and effort in making yourself a better and more intelligent individual.

The mother is the first person and the first environment for a child starting from the womb and it can be equally challenging for her to build it strong always and so no mother can be referred to as a “bad mum”.

Every mom has a perspective based on her own vision of qualities she would like her child to embrace. Just as each child is unique, so is the child’s mother and her rules. To be judged or scanned under a microscopic lens is bound to happen, at every single walk of life. let this not bog you down dear mom!!!! Hold on tightly to your principled perception of life and the bright future of your child and enjoy the bumpy ride.