Whatever your life situation, it has brought you here—over the age of 40 and wanting a child. It’s really no different being 40 than being 20, if you want to have a baby, it can be an all consuming desire. You eat, sleep, and live for getting pregnant. Everything you do in life is centered around whether or not it will help you conceive.
There’s a lot of discouraging information out there about trying to conceive over the age of 40. Many of us out there didn’t consciously wait until we were 40, it’s just that our life circumstances worked out that way. Some of us didn’t want children when we were younger, and some of us married later in life and just didn’t have the opportunity to have children until now. Another common scenario is that women have children when they’re younger, divorce, remarry, and want to start a new family with their new husband.
Whatever your life situation, it has brought you here—over the age of 40 and wanting a child. It’s really no different being 40 than being 20, if you want to have a baby, it can be an all consuming desire. You eat, sleep, and live for getting pregnant. Everything you do in life is centered around whether or not it will help you conceive. If you start trying to gather information, you are bombarded with dismal statistics, high miscarriage rates, birth defects, and pregnancy complications. Discouraging is putting it mildly. It’s enough to make you want to pack up your marbles and go home with empty arms.
I’d like to give you a new perspective. Getting pregnant over 40 doesn’t have to be this difficult, horrifying experience. What was especially horrifying for me was going through fertility treatments. I pumped myself full of drugs, hormones, and wound up having surgery to remove one of my fallopian tubes after one of my IVF cycles ended in an ectopic pregnancy. After that experience, I almost decided to move on to “childfree”. But, after doing much research, I realized that getting pregnant over 40 naturally isn’t all that uncommon. It’s just that most of the information out there is pessimistic. I’m sure most women over 40 aren’t trying to get pregnant (and many have had sterilization procedures) skewing the statistics negatively.
To make a long story short, after much research, I embarked on an all natural journey to pregnancy. I prepared my body, my mind and I got pregnant 4 times over the age of 40. My last pregnancy carried to term without complications and I had my beautiful daughter at the age of 44. Even though I had a rollercoaster ride of ups and downs while trying to conceive, it I learned a very valuable lesson: <i>I am in control of my body and if I treat my body right, it is capable of amazing things. I have the ability to attract what I want in my life no matter how far fetched it may sound to other people. Only I know what’s right for me.</i>
I have known many women with similar stories (I previously ran the women’s support group for my local infertility organization). They went through infertility, their fertility treatments failed, and they wound up getting pregnant naturally (even the ones over 40).
I’m not saying that fertility treatments aren’t the answer for some couples, but if you’re trying to conceive, take a look at your lifestyle first. Are you doing everything you can to enhance your fertility?
Trying to conceive was the best thing I’ve ever done for my overall health. I changed my high-stress lifestyle, I confronted my less-than-perfect upbringing, and I changed the way I eat. Best of all, I learned how I attract what I want in my life. I truly am living happily ever after.
© Copyright 2006 Sandy Robertson
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