Take a Stand for Yourself

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Take a Stand for Yourself

Maintaining balance in your life is a common concern these days,
usually posed as an issue of work/life balance. People who seek
work/life balance often want to work less and have more time and
energy for family or for other interests. However, this month,
I'd like to look at balance through a different lens.

At its core, I believe that maintaining "balance" means examining
how fully we value and honor ourselves. And to fully value and
honor ourselves, sometimes we need to take a stand. We already
take stands for causes we believe in, we advocate for our
children, and champion our friends as they go after their dreams.
Yet sometimes we forget that the most important person to take a
stand for is the one we greet daily in the bathroom mirror.

Taking a stand means different things to different people. Here
are some examples:

- In the midst of a successful career and a growing family, your
political consciousness is activated and you join in a protest
about an issue close to your heart.

- You buck the family expectation that you'll use your law degree
in a big downtown law firm. Instead, you use your legal skills
to protect the environment.

- You're from a family of artists and writers, but you go to
business school instead.

- You tell your family and friends that you are going to take
care of yourself first -starting now.

These are big, life-altering examples. You also take a stand for
yourself when you say, for example, "I'm not cooking dinner on
Friday nights" or "From now on, I'm leaving work by 5:30pm" or
"I'm for the first time committed to losing these 20 pounds".

Sometimes the stand you've taken may not be popular amongst those
nearest and dearest to you. And sometimes, you'll feel everyone
is cheering you on! Sometimes it's a little of both. In any
case, you have stretched into unknown territory.

Tips for taking a stand:

- Gain clarity: What do you want? What action, if any, do you
need to take?

- Carve out some time and space to reflect and listen to
yourself. What does your intuition tell you?

- Recognize that your energy for taking a stand ebbs and flows.

- Engage your support system. Talk about your goals with people
who know you and truly listen.

- Know that you always have a choice. What may feel like balance
one day may not feel like it the next.

When you take a stand for yourself, you contribute to the world
in a bigger way than you could ever imagine. The ripple in the
pond analogy fits: When you value yourself and what you need, you
inspire others to do the same thing. What would the world be
like if each of us took a stand?

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Claudette Rowley, coach and author, helps professionals
identify and pursue their true purpose and calling in life.
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