Watch Out: Is Your Marriage Boring and Dull?

Oct 16 16:49 2010 Christine Hardway Print This Article

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Dullness and feeling bored can lead to significantly less marital satisfaction even years into a marriage. Individuals who reported being bored and experienced dullness in their marriages had a greater decrease in marital satisfaction. With that in mind, what should newlyweds and married couples do to ensure long term and happy marriages?


According to a study done by, Bianca P. Acevedo,Guest Posting PhD, from the University of California, Santa Barbara, when couples are bored with their relationship, they experienced less closeness with each other, which, in turn, resulted in less overall satisfaction. To maintain high levels of marital quality over time, couples also need to make their lives together exciting. Couples could make their marriage work better by doing new or challenging things on a regular basis.


According to the study, the effects of doing exciting things together really last for years. Married couples go out for a date night on a weekly basis where they do something together that they have never or rarely done before, something that is not just enjoyable, but in some way exciting. A new restaurant, new music, new friends, etc.


Romantic love can last a lifetime and lead to even happier, stronger and healthier relationships. It has the same intensity, involvement, and sexual chemistry, as passionate love, with the exception of an obsession. Obsessive love is always accompanied by feelings such as anxiety and uncertainty, and never survives for a long time.


Companionship, or friendship-type love, which is what people usually see and expect as the natural transformation of any happy relationship, may be an unnecessary compromise. Partners should fight for their love with all the possible means. And couples who have been together for many years and wish to rekindle their romantic feelings, should remember that this is an attainable goal that, like most good things in life requires patience, energy and devotion.

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Christine Hardway
Christine Hardway

I am a psychotherapist in private practice with over 10 years of experience working as a counselor and therapist in Tampa. I provide individual psychotherapy and focus primarily in couples counseling for a wide range of difficulties including anxiety, depression and relationship issues. My office is conveniently located on Memorial Highway in Tampa and is also convenient to the Westshore business district, downtown Tampa, Westchase and Oldsmar.

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