So I ask you, do you concentrate on the “can’t dos” or the“can dos?” The following are three secrets to creating a“can do” attitude that produces positive results and moresuccess in your life, business, and career:
If you believe you can, you probably can. If you believe youwon't, you most assuredly won't. Belief is the ignition switchthat gets you off the launching pad.-Denis Waitley
Recently, I was watching a women’s professional tennismatch on TV. One of the players, Nadia Petrova, was havinga spectacular tennis season, either winning or playing for thechampionship in several tournaments in recent months.
The TV interviewer interviewed Nadia’s new coach andmentioned that Nadia, who was rated in the top twentyplayers in past years, was fast becoming one of the top fiveplayers in the world. The interviewer asked Nadia’s coachabout this, and the coach said, “In the past, Nadia hadpeople around her that concentrated on what she ‘can’t do.’So Nadia would concentrate on what she couldn’t do,especially in challenging situations on the court, and itwould frustrate her. I am concentrating on what she ‘cando,’ and she is a much better, confident player and ismentally much happier.”
So I ask you, do you concentrate on the “can’t dos” or the“can dos?” The following are three secrets to creating a“can do” attitude that produces positive results and moresuccess in your life, business, and career:
1. Set Can Do GoalsSet goals that move you toward successful results. Peoplefail because they don’t know what they want or what theydon’t want. Ask a friend, family member, or associate whatthey want in life. In most cases, they will pause and reallythink about what they want. Sometimes they can’t come upwith an answer. Sometimes they may come up with a weakresponse. However, ask the following question, “Whatdon’t you want in life?” and, in most situations, you willreceive multiple, clear, and quick answers to your question.That’s because we concentrate on what we don’t want tohappen instead of what we want to happen. In life, as insports, we concentrate on “not losing” instead ofconcentrating how to “win.”
Set S-M-A-R-T-E-R (Specific, Measurable, Attainable,Realistic, Timely, Encouraging, Rewarding) goals that createa crystal clear roadmap for your success, and work toachieve these goals everyday.
2. Take Care of Your N-E-T-SN-E-T-S stands for Network with Everyone Today forSuccess. Fill your NETS with positive people that willsupport your positive “can do” attitude. These people,while supporting your goals, will also help you passroadblocks to achieve your goals. You will also make yourNETS stronger by supporting their goals to create a mutuallysupportive situation.
Joy Fisher-Sykes always says, “Clean your NETS of peoplewho have a “can’t do,” negative attitude, and who don’tsupport your quest to achieve your goals.” The more junk(negative people) in your NETS, the less room you have formore treasure (positive people). Take a close look at“friends,” family and co-workers and ask, “Do they supportme and my “can do” attitude?” If they don’t, remove themfrom your NET. Keep your NET strong with positive people.
3. Concentrate on the PositiveRecent research shows that 75-80% of daily communicationis negative. This would include negative self-talk,conversations with others, or the media (TV, radio, theinternet, etc.).
Take back control of your mind and be responsible for your“can do” attitude. You can start with the following:a. Concentrate on self-talk with positive solutionsStart your mornings with meditation. Concentrate onpositive thoughts with positive results. Visualize, involvingas many senses as possible, to intensify the visualizationand make it real for you. Ask, “What does your success feel,look, sound, and taste like?” Be aware of negative self-talk,and replace it with positive self-talk.
b. Control the CommunicationIf it is a conversation, reframe the negative conversation intoa more positive conversation. If someone is complainingendlessly, say, “Mike, I hear what you are saying. Whatsolutions to you see to this problem?”
If the media is negative, tune it out or turn it off.
You can always walk away. You have that right.
c. Walk the TalkBe consistent in your behavior, and act on your “can do”attitude.
d. Fake It Till You Make ItAct like you are already achieving your goals, and you willrise to a higher level. Others will also see you as achievingyour goals and interact with you accordingly.
Follow these “can do” techniques and you will also achievemore success in your life. I know Nadia does. As of thiswriting, she has won two additional tournaments, with noend in sight. She has a “can do” attitude that createssuccess, and you can, too.
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Success is sometimes a long and winding journey. Many times you need to overcome the barriers that block you and naysayers who doubt you. Sometimes you need to fight though your own self-doubts to achieve success in your life.Marion Bartoli, the women's winner of the Wimbledon Championship, had to take a long and winding journey to overcome many barriers, naysayers and self-doubts to achieve to reach the pinnacle of the professional tennis world and become a champion.
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