Not sure why your relationship ended? If so, your ex didn't give you an honest scoop on things. Find out the REAL reasons your girlfriend broke up with you, and exactly what you can do about it if you plan to get her back.
Why did my girlfriend break up with me?
It's a common question. And if you're asking it right now, you're already in the unfortunate position of being her ex boyfriend.
Yes, it sucks. But that's okay. The good news is there's always a way back into your ex girlfriend's heart. Every breakup has a reverse path; a step-by-step road that leads to reconciliation.
The bad news? It's not always easy to find it.
First and foremost, you need to understand why your girlfriend dumped you. Until you can do that, there's no hope of getting her back.
Worse, you might already think you know why this is. Your ex probably sat you down, refused to look you in the eye, and spouted off a whole list of reasons why you can't be together anymore.
And you had no reason not to believe her.
In truth though, a girl will very rarely give out the REAL reasons for the end of the relationship. Sure, if you cheated on her, or something big happened, it might actually be that cut and dry. But in most cases? Your girlfriend will instead list whatever reasons give her the easiest 'out'.
Yes, your girlfriend wants as painless a breakup as possible. If she gave you the real reasons, you might try to correct them. Only she doesn't want you to correct them. So she gives you a bunch of bullshit excuses in order to walk away as fast as possible.
Reasons Why Your Girlfriend Broke Up With You
Below are three MAIN reasons your girl probably cut you loose. Some are tough to hear, but if you keep an open and honest mind, you can make some really great strides toward finding out what you truly did wrong. And that's the first step along the path to winning her back.
You Were Too Controlling Over Her
This is the first of the deadly sins that will kill any good relationship. Controlling your girlfriend is never possible, and always undesirable. It's a situation that quickly spirals out of control, causing lies and resentment on her end.
When you met her, your girlfriend had a life of her own. It's very possible that over the course of the relationship, she spent more and more time with you. This excluded things like family and friends, and/or limited the time she spent with them. As the romance wore on, you grew to expect a certain level of control over her. What she did, where she went, what time she got back... these things snuck up on you, and before you knew it, you were acting more like a parent than a boyfriend.
Every girl will grow to resent this. The more controlling you were, and the longer it went on, the more distant your ex felt from you. A controlling boyfriend will always get dumped, one way or the other. Be honest... was this you?
You Were Way Too Insecure During Your Relationship
This one is weird, but when it happens, it's a HUGE turnoff. Girls hate this type of behavior.
Were you constantly asking your girlfriend if she loved you? If she found you attractive? Were you always comparing yourself to her ex lovers, and making her tell you that you were "the best" she ever had at everything?
If the answer to those questions is yes, this is definitely one of the reasons she broke up with you. Girls want a guy who is strong and independent. A guy who is sure of himself. Confidence is KING.
You can't be confident if you're pestering her with dumb questions as to how good you're doing, or holding yourself up against past boyfriends in some kind of lame measuring contest.
Insecurity is a relationship killer, especially in a boyfriend. Think about it. You're a MAN. You're supposed to be strong and look after your girl. How can you do those things if you're not even sure of yourself? How can you deserve her if you have to constantly ASK if you're deserving of her?
You Were a Crazy Jealous Boyfriend
Insecurity comes in many forms, and the worst one is jealousy. If you were that crazy jealous boyfriend (and you know exactly the one I'm talking about), chances are good your ex dumped you because of it.
Honestly? No one ever thinks they're "that guy". It's hard to step back and examine yourself objectively. But if you really want your girlfriend back? Take a hard look at how you treated her in regards to being jealous.
Were you the type of boyfriend who wouldn't let his girlfriend even talk to other guys? The one who texted her every ten minutes to make sure she wasn't "doing anything"? The boyfriend who kept her home rather than letting her go out with her friends? Interrogated her when she got home?
Freedom is an important aspect of your girlfriend's social life. Give her the freedom to do what she wants and any loving girlfriend will always come back to you. But stifle her with the tremendous burden of unwanted jealousy? Eventually she's going to bolt.
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Why Is My Ex Sending Mixed Signals?
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