Applying The Art Of War To Dating

The Art of War is a book written by an almost unknown general, who goes by the name of Sun Tzu, approximately half a thousand years ago. The truths revealed and the principles contained in that treatise have never been truer than it is now. More than that, the applicability of its principles encompasses that of literal and actual combat. Furthermore, the book's wisdom reaches out to almost every aspect of life. The Art of War is like a master key which unlocks the door to winning in every known situation - including dating.

Laying Down of Plans

"If you know yourself and the enemy, you will always win. If you know yourself but you do not know the enemy, sometimes you will win and sometimes you will lose. If you don't know yourself or your enemy, you will probably be defeated."The majority of dates fail because of a mismatch. This means that either you don't know what you're looking for in a date or you don't know what to expect from your date (personality, beliefs, culture, etc.) or you are not ready to be the perfect date or all of the above.

"The warriors of old, before they went into battle, first made themselves invincible." This principle, when applied to dating, means that you must first be ready for a date before you can count on a second date and a lasting relationship. For your date to be fascinated by you, you must be assured that she sees you as a possible lover or as an attractive person this can be accomplished through the "use of spies". To know what she thinks, how she thinks, and why she thinks that way will be invaluable in your quest to get her attention and win her heart.

Going to Battle

Now being privy to the desires of her heart you must waste no time in making them a reality. In war as in dating, the element of surprise is a vital factor. If you know that she likes flowers, send her the best bouquet or if she likes poetry, then make an effort to unleash the bard in you and overwhelm her with rosy words so that her heart will melt for you. This gives testimony to the adage, "To fight and conquer in all your battles is not supreme excellence; supreme excellence consists in breaking the enemy's resistance without even fighting".

"The general who wins a battle makes many calculations before the battle is fought. The general who loses a battle makes but few calculations. Thus do many calculations lead to a victory, and few calculations to defeat; how much more no calculation at all," so says James Clavell in his study of the Art of War, which you can clearly apply to dating as well.

Dating, like all other kinds of human endeavor, has a goal. For most people the goal of dating is to find a lover, a soul mate, a match. You can achieve success in dating by using The Art Of War as a guide.