Black male-female relationships can be hard, but they are impossible when one side does not respect the other. Black men need to uplift their women in order to reap the personal and community benefits.
There was a recent article in an online news source that documented a conversation between Lil Wayne and a few of his female fans. ALLEGEDLY, in the exchange Lil Wayne stated very clearly (and not as nicely) that he didn't like dark-skinned girls. He further went on to say that he was glad that he had babies from all white or light skinned girls so his babies could come out with good hair. Outside of this rumor article he has stated similar things in his lyrics “Beautiful Black Woman i bet that b*tch look better red”. Ladies and gentlemen what is wrong with this picture?
First let me start by saying that I'm not trying to bash Lil Wayne or his dating preferences. Love is colorblind and I have no problem with interracial dating or marriage. In fact I think it is what God intended and nothing would please me more than a new generation of beautiful black, almond, and butterscotch "rainbow children". With that said I think it is abhorrent to favor one group of women AND run another group of women down just because they happen to be darker than a paper bag. This type of blatant discrimination because of skin color is what black people have been fighting against for generations and to have this attitude perpetuated by our own people is disgusting. What makes it worse is that it is too often perpetuated by rappers and hip hop artists who have so much influence over so many young black men and women. There is nothing worse than a person who has the ear of the masses telling the masses to hate themselves or hate some group (I'm sure a few historical tyrants can come to mind).
Everyone has preferences when it comes to dating, food, sports or whatever the case may be. There is nothing wrong with preferences but fortifying your preference with blatant bigotry or denigration of your non-preference is unnecessary, damaging to others and in many cases evil.
You can be pro-black without being anti-white
You can like the institution of marriage without hating on gay people and gay marriage
You can like democrats without hating all republicans
You can like the New York Yankees without hating the Boston Red Sox (okay, not too sure about this one)
You can prefer white or light-skinned girls without hating and dissing dark-skinned girls.
Favoring one thing does not mean hate for another thing. Absolute hate for a thing or a group of people is THE definition of prejudice and racism and there just is no place for that in our society anymore - period.
A people will only rise as far as the women in their society rise. People in a civilized society should know this. The balance between male and female perspectives is necessary for fair and just governments; war versus diplomacy; function versus beauty; and all things that make us civilized. Women nurture our children and our society and are the yin to our yang. As far as beauty is concerned dark-skinned black women are some of the most beautiful black women in the world. Equally beautiful are light-skinned, heavy, tall and thin black women. Irrespective of their beauty, ALL black women need to be respected by black men. As a man you want respect so you should give it to your women. The constant denigration of women as hos, bitches, too dark, and pimp targets BY BLACK MEN makes our people look like a bunch of savages. From a sociological standpoint any group who hates on half of its population (women) is doomed to fail or at a minimum have half of its people repressed, depressed, and oppressed. Is that what we want for our black women who love, care for, need and want us?
As a black man, hating dark skinned women is like hating yourself. Maybe self-hatred is the problem with Lil Wayne and other black men with similar opinions. Don't fall into this trap. Tell a dark skinned sister that she is beautiful, intelligent and attractive. Supporting her is like supporting yourself.
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