I want my ex back, determine Exactly what led to the break up

Do you want to get back with your ex?, determine Exactly what led to the break up. I am going to repeat that. "Determine Exactly what led to the break up"! If you have read any of my other articles on how to get back with your ex, you have seen this phrase in just about every article I write on this subject. And I put it in just about every article for a very good reason. This is absolutely, positively the most important step to getting your ex back. If you do not have a crystal clear understanding of what led to the break up, you will not get back with your ex period.

You can even test this for yourself. Ask this question, What caused your break up? If your answer is something like; "we had an argument over who was going to do the dishes" or "we broke up over a dent I put in the car". There are hundred's of reasons you may give for what you Think you broke up with ex over. Whatever you think the reason is for your break up, stop right here and go call your ex boyfriend and tell him that your sorry for the dent in the car, you'll be happy to pay for it, you'll be more careful from now on, can we please get back together. or go call your ex girlfriend and tell her that your sorry for not sharing in doing the dishes, it was thoughtless and selfish, and you will help the household chores from now on, can we get back together. Go ahead I'll wait.

Didn't work did it? Why not?, I mean after all these were heartfelt apologies, and you probably meant every word of it.
Two reasons, First your ex is not interested in your apology right now. And second, your apologizing for the wrong thing. Although an apology is important at some point, it's not your priority right now. Your priority right now is to find the real reason for the break up.

I can guarantee that you did not break up with your boyfriend because you put a dent in the car, or you didn't break up with your girlfriend because you didn't help with the household chores. These are issues that can cause an argument, and can ultimately end up in a break up. But they are not the reasons that led to the break up

Couples do not break up over single incidents, a break up happens because one of you has hit their breaking point from an issue that has been developing over time. So your priority is to get to the heart of the matter. Use this analogy as a good example of the importance of this.

You have a car you care a great deal about, one day you notice a slight knock in the engine but don't give it much thought. you know it's not right, but it doesn't seem to affect the performance of the car, so you keep driving the car, you know something is wrong but your not sure what to do. One day it's hot outside the engine overheats and throws a rod through the block. That's it the car does' run any more. And you think it was because it was hot and overheated. That may be what ultimately stopped the car from running but the problem could of been prevented from the moment you first noticed the knock. It may have been as simple as a quart of oil. But is the car a lost cause now?... No, can it be fixed?... Yes it can the rest of the car is fine, but your going to have to rebuild the engine.

Your relationship is alot like this. Get to the root of the problem once you know exactly what led to your break up, and you now know what could of been done to prevent it your ready to start rebuilding your relationship with your ex. Now go call your ex explan to them that you now have a crystal clear understanding of the real cause of your break up. That's what they want to here. When they see that you truly understand what they were really upset about, and that it wasn't over a dirty dish in the sink. They are going to be much more open to getting back together.

Remeber one last point here, just because you identified the problem in the engine of your car, it's not going to fix itself. Same with your relationship, fix the problem and you and your ex will be back together and running smothly. You may need a mechanic to fix your car, get a mechanic. You may need help to get your ex back. Keep reading my articles.