How much can we handle?

My experience from life about events is that we can handle more than we believe we can. I do agree upon the saying it’s not have we have it its how we take it.

A friend of mine lost her husband last summer. He had a bad stomach and lost a few pounds. As the summer arrived he lost more weight and started to complain about the pain. She took her husband to hospital and in a period of seven weeks he died.

The time passes by. She moved out from their home, started up a new life and today her younger brother died. She is concerned for her old mother. So she has to deliver the message. As we were talking she said, I don’t know how I will make it.

In those times it’s just to listen, hug and comfort her. We know that it does not matter what we say it is just to be there.

Have you thought about how it changes from when you were young until today?

We hear and experience the death more frequently when we get older.

Or where we saved from the information by our parents? It must be like that.

Because I am certain people died when I was a little girl too. I remember the time when my grand father passed away. I was thirteen years old and I was not allowed to participate at the funeral. My parents thought I was better to be at home and baby sits my younger cousins. I was so disappointed and even so today.

Well time goes by and several sessions of grief counselling I am free.

Today I am a certificated grief counsellor and helping other people to walk through the grief. It is never too late to be happy. It is a very easy process once you get the grip of it. You need people around you and preferably people you don’t know.

They have to be trained, educated in taking care of you and lead you through the process. Keep in mind that we can help you even years after the event.

The grief is about the miss out of the communication to the person you lost.

So in other words we help you to talk to the person again. Even if he or she is not alive, around and you don’t want to speak to them anymore. The beauty I have seen coming out from the grief is stunning. The person with the grief looks younger and more vital after the sessions. No skin products or Botox treatment could do the same. It’s like the body and mind are releasing toxins from the human body.

The benefits are far more then just the looks. You feel lighter, happier and stronger to move in to new challenges. See it like a renovation of your inner house.

You prepare for a long stay on the ground.

It also gives space and a nurtured ground for the beautiful flowers to grow.