New Years Resolutions: 3 Reasons why they don't work!

Have you ever told yourself "NO MORE! I will not set another New Years Resolution ever again!"If so, this article is for you...New Years Resolutions don't work and I'm going share with you 3 key reasons for that!One of the first things to recognize about resolutions of any kind is the pressure to perform. Resolutions are goals, and during the start of the year the pressure to perform can been extreme.Once you say to yourself and others something like..."I'm going to lose 20 pounds by..." "I'm going to make more money..." "I'm going to take a vacation..."...you will almost immediately begin to feel the pressure to perform.Just thinking it can be enough to pressure you!Once a resolution is spoken there are no "take backs."You are now a target!Have you ever made a commitment to a friend, a boss, or even to yourself and found yourself feeling like everybody is suddenly looking at you?This is the pressure I'm speaking of and not understanding that it is there can be enough to stop you before you even get started.In fact, just the anticipation of such pressure can keep you from ever attempting to make such commitment to yourself or others.Let's say you decide to make a resolution. Now what?What is going to change?It is so easy to continue to do what you do day-in and day-out. To stay busy with what you have come to know as everyday life doesn't require a second thought.Making a change does require a second thought!The truth about everyday life is that you have what you have today because of your everyday life!In other words, your results are the outcome of...- How you live - How you work - How you play - How you eat - How you shop - How you relax...your everyday life.Is there one thing that will keep you from achieving your resolution? If so, do you what you have to do to change it.If it's time, what change will give you enough time?If it's your friends, what change will keep your friends from being a challenge?If it's eating, what change will make eating a more effective experience?Understanding what to change can be the difference between you wanting to forget your resolution or loving it!Having an "I can do it myself!" attitude might very well be one of the biggest reasons for ending up disappointed with a less than satisfying result.Is there someone in your life that will support you unconditionally?Are they someone you can share your resolution with and who will challenge you as needed?Are they Someone who will listen and encourage you when needed?If there isn't anyone like that in your life, can you find someone or even a group of like minded people to share and work with as you work toward your resolution?While doing things alone can make your resolution more difficult than necessary. It is also important to know that there will be some resolutions that don't require any other support than yourself.Recognizing when you can do it alone or not means being honest with yourself!Being willing to work with others. They may have the experience and the answers you are looking for. That can be the difference between disappointment and celebration.Here are three reasons why resolutions don't work...Reason 1: Pressure to performSolution: Pick a resolution that really inspires you. Something that "YOU WANT!"Solution: Don't tell everyone. Be selective with whom you share your resolution.Reason2: Not making a supportive changeSolution: Decide what you can do to give yourself the greatest opportunity to achieve your resolution.If it will take a certain amount of time to accomplish your resolution, spread it out. Make the segments of time you devote to your resolution small enough for you to accomplish with ease.Note: Be willing to experiment. Try different things, different methods, and use the one that works best for you.Reason 3: Doing it aloneSolution: Find a friend or a group that will support you as you work toward your resolution. Change can be challenging and doing it alone can make it even more challenging.Remember, all of this starts with the resolution you choose. Make sure you start with something that inspires you.A resolution you really want to reach!Make it a resolution that result in a change that motivates you.A change you will enjoy!