If you realize that you repeat doing things that don't work and put yourself in constant internal conflict, it's time to change.
Negative thinking results in destructive feeling. As you continue to dwell on the negativity in your life, it becomes a pattern. From the minute you wake up, your thoughts and emotions become automatic because they now have control over you.
If you realize that you repeat doing things that don't work and put yourself in constant internal conflict, it's time to change.
How to eliminate the negative and destructive patterns of thinking and feeling.
Reflect.
You have to start asking yourself some important questions. You should ponder about how you have been using language on yourself, look at what you do to put you in a certain state and what’s been going on in your head. This means you have to put yourself in a state of awareness. Once you observe and notice what’s going on inside, you will learn to understand yourself and your feelings. You are then able to alter your thoughts which will affect your emotions and your behavior and attitudes.
Break the pattern.
You have to practice breaking your destructive thoughts and pictures. You need to listen and watch so that you will notice. When you notice them showing up, immediately interrupt. You interfere by asking some ridiculous questions, playing around and manipulating the pictures in your mind or changing the meaning that you have been accustomed to. Do this often enough and you will begin to alter your automatic state of mind and develop a different mindset.
Using your memories.
You put yourself into a certain state of emotion when a particular memory or experience shows up. When you remember something pleasant, you will automatically put yourself in a resourceful mode. When some unpleasant pictures pop up in your mind, you react according to how you have learned to do without thinking. Why not recall more of the pleasant memories so that you can put yourself in a state that will inspire and motivate you to do and dare. It’s all about choice.
Changing the pictures and dialogs in your mind.
How you feel in the moment has a lot to do with the pictures and dialogues going on endlessly in your head. Anything that has happened on your outside world has passed. What remains is your recollection. Most of them are repetitions of what you have seen, experienced and heard. Others are what you create. You can change and manipulate the pictures or the meanings because they exist inside where you have total control. You can do anything you wish with the pictures and the dialogs. Your ability to master this will enhance your life.
