No Contact With Your Ex Girlfriend - How to STILL Get Her Back

One minute she's your loving girlfriend... and the next? She won't even accept your calls. This was a girl that loved you, cared for you, laughed with you and spent all her time on your relationship. But now? Nothing.

After the break up, what makes your girlfriend go from warm and loving to cold and clinical so quickly? How can she so easily forget what you had together?

More importantly: can you break that behavior, or are you doomed to a life without her?

When your ex girlfriend is ignoring you, it's hard to get her back. Winning your girlfriend's attention and respect is an important part of getting back together again, and you can't reverse your breakup without accomplishing this crucial step.

Getting Past The Awkward First Stages Of Your Break Up

One of the bigger problems: immediately after ending your relationship, your ex wants little to do with you. Right now she feels strange and awkward around you, mostly because she knows you still have romantic feelings for her. In an attempt to break up with you, your ex is trying to ignore romance and move on in a different direction... but you keep trying to bring up old times, talk about the relationship, and get your girlfriend to change her mind about dumping you.

In reality however, your ex girlfriend's feelings for you are still there. Just because she's choosing to ignore them doesn't mean your ex doesn't still love you. Emotional bonds are strong, and they don't just fall away the second she makes the decision to end things. This is good news if you're trying to win your girlfriend back, because there are ways of playing upon those feelings that will make her remember your relationship and want to be with you again.

Understanding Your Ex Girlfriend's Mindset - And Rolling With It Instead of Against It

Another common issue guys run into after being dumped: thinking they can change their ex girlfriend's mind. For any girl looking to end things, continued conflict is a very frustrating part of the breakup. This is why it's important not to fight your girlfriend on her decision to break up with you, but rather roll with the punches (for now) and then make your comeback later on.

You need to realize that right now, nothing is going to fix your break up. By letting it happen and allowing your ex the freedom to go, it might seem like you're letting your girlfriend slip away. In reality however, what you're really doing is giving your girlfriend exactly what she wants: a taste of life without you in it. And in most cases? By completely removing yourself from her world, your ex might find that things taste a lot lonlier than she anticipated.

Want the real kicker? Your girlfriend wants you to chase her. Ego-wise, she wants to see that you're hurt and upset about her breaking up with you. She needs the justification of knowing that breaking things off made you want her more than ever before, as this verifies that she made the right decision and gives her the satisfaction of seeing you finally pay her some positive attention.

So if she wants you to chase after her, should you? Absolutely NOT. Because as much as it's fun for her to see you throwing yourself at her feet, this is where your ex girlfriend will turn her nose up at you. This is where she gets to reject your pleas, refuse your advances, and finally seize control over a relationship she feels has gone downhill for her. The more you chase her, the faster she'll run... and the more respect your ex will lose for you as she watches you break down.

Why Does Your Ex Girlfriend Ignore You?

If your breakup already happened and your ex is ignoring you, it's probably because you've shown too much of your hand. You committed right away to getting her back, probably at all costs, and this is when your ex realized she was holding all the cards.

Had you ignored your ex girlfriend and walked away from the break up cleanly? She'd be a LOT more interested in what you're doing right now. Your ex would be wonder how you could let her go so easily and would start questioning just how much you really needed her. This is where she begins wondering if she needs you more, and starts thinking that maybe breaking up with you was a mistake on her part.

What Can You Do Right Now To Get Your Ex Back?

Well for one, you can get your ex to miss you. Until she somehow starts thinking about you, she'll never need you back in her life again. There are methods and techniques you can use to reinsert yourself back in your ex's head, without her even knowing what you've done. Learning these methods can really make the difference between getting back together or breaking up for good.

Nothing happens automatically. When it comes to a breakup, you must be proactive. You can't sit idly by and hope that your girlfriend will come to her senses, and you can't just wait for the phone to ring. Do that, and you run the risk of your ex finding someone else.